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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 761291" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Hi there. I'm sorry about this...been there. I go to Nar Anon and therapy. Took me ten years to accept help and it's much better to accept help ASAP! Trust me!!!!</p><p></p><p>We have no control over our addicted kids or over anyone but ourselves. These are the Nar Anon three Cs. Very important to remember. We didn't Cause the addiction at all, we have no Control over what they do, and we can not Cure it even if we spend 24/7 trying. I like Nar Anon because it taught me how to let go of Kay with love to my higher power and to move on with my own life. I can't change Kay. But I can change my reaction to Kay and my own life beyond Kay. I am doing well. We all are. Now. Well, not Kay so much, but only Kay can help herself. So far she won't and we can't control that. The rest of us are close and thriving. The rest of us matter too.</p><p></p><p>Nar Anon sells a book called SESH (forget what it stands for) but I carry it around like a Bible to remind me of what I can and can not do and for daily reassurance. You can get it on Amazon.if you like. You can also try Nar Anon. We have Zoom meetings which are listed on the internet. I love my group. Mine is Thirday night...it says for one area, but anyone from anywhere can go to any meeting. It is not area specific as we are on Zoom.</p><p></p><p>Between Nar Anon and my therapist I saved my marriage, my relationships with my other kids and family, and I learned to take care of me. I had to learn that caring for me is not selfish.</p><p></p><p>There is nothing you can say to make your son listen to your fear for him. He will only stop when he is ready. This is frustrating but it's also true. No magic words. Usually they ignore us and even get abusive. Stop trying to make him hear you. He knows he is doing unhealthy things and does not care. Nagging can make them worse. </p><p></p><p>Sending love and prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 761291, member: 23706"] Hi there. I'm sorry about this...been there. I go to Nar Anon and therapy. Took me ten years to accept help and it's much better to accept help ASAP! Trust me!!!! We have no control over our addicted kids or over anyone but ourselves. These are the Nar Anon three Cs. Very important to remember. We didn't Cause the addiction at all, we have no Control over what they do, and we can not Cure it even if we spend 24/7 trying. I like Nar Anon because it taught me how to let go of Kay with love to my higher power and to move on with my own life. I can't change Kay. But I can change my reaction to Kay and my own life beyond Kay. I am doing well. We all are. Now. Well, not Kay so much, but only Kay can help herself. So far she won't and we can't control that. The rest of us are close and thriving. The rest of us matter too. Nar Anon sells a book called SESH (forget what it stands for) but I carry it around like a Bible to remind me of what I can and can not do and for daily reassurance. You can get it on Amazon.if you like. You can also try Nar Anon. We have Zoom meetings which are listed on the internet. I love my group. Mine is Thirday night...it says for one area, but anyone from anywhere can go to any meeting. It is not area specific as we are on Zoom. Between Nar Anon and my therapist I saved my marriage, my relationships with my other kids and family, and I learned to take care of me. I had to learn that caring for me is not selfish. There is nothing you can say to make your son listen to your fear for him. He will only stop when he is ready. This is frustrating but it's also true. No magic words. Usually they ignore us and even get abusive. Stop trying to make him hear you. He knows he is doing unhealthy things and does not care. Nagging can make them worse. Sending love and prayers. [/QUOTE]
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