hearts and roses
Mind Reader
Just when I thought difficult child was turning easy child...
difficult child 20 has a boyfriend (29 with two small sons). His exgf began harrassing difficult child by sending her messages on facebook, driving by her hangouts, even coming into the hangouts and calling her nasty names. Unbelievable to me, difficult child was able to NOT respond, though it has been killing her. It's been going on over a month now and difficult child's boyfriend says he's trying to save some money so he can contact a lawyer, because the ex has been manipulating his visitation with his sons over his involvement with difficult child. The ex claims that difficult child's boyfriend has spent nights with her at her house (the ex has a live in boyfriend and lives above her boyfriend's parents, so it's not really possible). The ex also claims that the entire time the difficult child and the boyfriend have been together (9 months+) that the ex and difficult child's boyfriend have been sleeping toghether (also not so believable since difficult child and boyfriend pretty much spend every night together except on Saturday nights when he has his boys).
**This morning difficult child called me from work and said that the ex has fabricated texts/messages from difficult child to the ex and has threatened difficult child's boyfriend that she's retained a lawyer and unless he stops seeing difficult child, she's going to take him to court and charge difficult child with harrassment and get the judge to disallow any visitation with his boys.**
I told difficult child that should there be any investigation, the authenticity of the texts/messages would be found out, so if she sent ANY, she should come clean now. She said the only message she sent was telling the exgf to leave her alone and not to contact her in any way and that's it. Anything else, difficult child claims, the exgf created.
So, difficult child asked me if she should go to the police, sort of as a pre-emptive measure against the exgf - I advised against that because if difficult child is not guilty of anything, she should just lay back and wait. I think the exgf is just bluffing and trying to manipulate difficult child's boyfriend somehow. difficult child's boyfriend even claims to have gone to the exgf's mother and her mother even said the exgf is crazy and that she doesn't know what her motivation is.
So, I would love to hear some comments. I really do not know how to advise difficult child on this because I've stood up for her and been burned so many times. Most of me is feeling that she's telling me the truth, but there is another part of me that feels she may have sent more than that one message and it was a doozy so she doesn't want to own up to it. But I am not sure.
difficult child 20 has a boyfriend (29 with two small sons). His exgf began harrassing difficult child by sending her messages on facebook, driving by her hangouts, even coming into the hangouts and calling her nasty names. Unbelievable to me, difficult child was able to NOT respond, though it has been killing her. It's been going on over a month now and difficult child's boyfriend says he's trying to save some money so he can contact a lawyer, because the ex has been manipulating his visitation with his sons over his involvement with difficult child. The ex claims that difficult child's boyfriend has spent nights with her at her house (the ex has a live in boyfriend and lives above her boyfriend's parents, so it's not really possible). The ex also claims that the entire time the difficult child and the boyfriend have been together (9 months+) that the ex and difficult child's boyfriend have been sleeping toghether (also not so believable since difficult child and boyfriend pretty much spend every night together except on Saturday nights when he has his boys).
**This morning difficult child called me from work and said that the ex has fabricated texts/messages from difficult child to the ex and has threatened difficult child's boyfriend that she's retained a lawyer and unless he stops seeing difficult child, she's going to take him to court and charge difficult child with harrassment and get the judge to disallow any visitation with his boys.**
I told difficult child that should there be any investigation, the authenticity of the texts/messages would be found out, so if she sent ANY, she should come clean now. She said the only message she sent was telling the exgf to leave her alone and not to contact her in any way and that's it. Anything else, difficult child claims, the exgf created.
So, difficult child asked me if she should go to the police, sort of as a pre-emptive measure against the exgf - I advised against that because if difficult child is not guilty of anything, she should just lay back and wait. I think the exgf is just bluffing and trying to manipulate difficult child's boyfriend somehow. difficult child's boyfriend even claims to have gone to the exgf's mother and her mother even said the exgf is crazy and that she doesn't know what her motivation is.
So, I would love to hear some comments. I really do not know how to advise difficult child on this because I've stood up for her and been burned so many times. Most of me is feeling that she's telling me the truth, but there is another part of me that feels she may have sent more than that one message and it was a doozy so she doesn't want to own up to it. But I am not sure.
