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<blockquote data-quote="tryingtobestrong" data-source="post: 756038" data-attributes="member: 22817"><p>Thank Deni D, I am so trying to let go. I could also view the current boss as somewhat of an enabler maybe as well. He missed a lot of time but the FMLA helped in that respect. As soon as he and the girlfriend have a disagreement, he falters and misses work due to being hung over or just depressed. He will then go in on weekends and make up his time. He seems to be going strong and then bamb she doesn't do what he wants or doesn't answer her phone when he calls or his texts and that sends him into a frenzy that she is cheating on him, etc.</p><p></p><p>Looks like that just happened on Monday night.... I still pay his cell phone and so I can look at the usage. Called her 43 times in an hour and a half.... she didn't answer... almost 99% positive he didn't go to work on Tuesday either. This is what I mean. Would love to point that out to him. How will you be a supervisor when you miss so much time?</p><p>This is his life. </p><p>I do feel that the reason I get so "involved" is because he comes to us when he needs money for groceries due to not having any left after he pays his rent.... However, he seems to have money for weed, for basketball games and for take out. </p><p>Maybe if he was totally on his own it would not make me feel so hurt/angry when he calls to see if I would send him an ecard for groceries. </p><p>I wish I was strong enough to say "Well, you need to decide if you want to spend your money on weed or food?" He also took his girlfriend for an overnight stay around Valentine's day... Like where did that money come from. Didn't mind charging that but then needs me to help pay for groceries?</p><p>Sorry for venting. </p><p>Thank for being here and for everyone thoughts. They help me so much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tryingtobestrong, post: 756038, member: 22817"] Thank Deni D, I am so trying to let go. I could also view the current boss as somewhat of an enabler maybe as well. He missed a lot of time but the FMLA helped in that respect. As soon as he and the girlfriend have a disagreement, he falters and misses work due to being hung over or just depressed. He will then go in on weekends and make up his time. He seems to be going strong and then bamb she doesn't do what he wants or doesn't answer her phone when he calls or his texts and that sends him into a frenzy that she is cheating on him, etc. Looks like that just happened on Monday night.... I still pay his cell phone and so I can look at the usage. Called her 43 times in an hour and a half.... she didn't answer... almost 99% positive he didn't go to work on Tuesday either. This is what I mean. Would love to point that out to him. How will you be a supervisor when you miss so much time? This is his life. I do feel that the reason I get so "involved" is because he comes to us when he needs money for groceries due to not having any left after he pays his rent.... However, he seems to have money for weed, for basketball games and for take out. Maybe if he was totally on his own it would not make me feel so hurt/angry when he calls to see if I would send him an ecard for groceries. I wish I was strong enough to say "Well, you need to decide if you want to spend your money on weed or food?" He also took his girlfriend for an overnight stay around Valentine's day... Like where did that money come from. Didn't mind charging that but then needs me to help pay for groceries? Sorry for venting. Thank for being here and for everyone thoughts. They help me so much. [/QUOTE]
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