Hi All,
I believe difficult child 1 was up to her old manipulative ways--want to run this by you guys for an "objective view."
Okay, started really a couple of nights ago--the set up I guess you might say. She called and we chitchatted and then she said that she might be taking some time off work to go hiking on the Appalachian Trail. She was thinking of taking a long weekend or maybe even a week and would be going with boyfriend (he is as big a difficult child as she is, 2 peas in a pod--has left her a couple of times with rent to pay, had her tramping all over New England last summer living in homeless shelters, is 26 yrs old, very much a "drifter"--very restless). I didn't say a whole lot except I was curious how they would pay their April rent if they are taking time off work and she assured me they had it all taken care of.
Okay, she calls me last night and says that she is definitely going--is going for 4 days, Sunday-Wed. We had a nice chat--she said she really needs a break, loves to camp, etc. I got off the phone and told my husband that amazingly she didn't seem to want anything from me, had just called to talk--yeah, right!
Today she called me at work and wondered if she could see me in person to talk about some stuff. I met her downtown on my lunch hour. She started off telling me how her ex-dealer (for heroin) had just moved in across the street from her and how that is sort of freaking her out. I suggested that maybe she should go to an NA meeting and she said she had called our county mental health dept. to maybe set up a meeting with a substance abuse counselor. She then talked about how she doesn't want to go back to that life, etc. She then got to what I believe was the real reason for the visit--said she had everything all set for the camping trip--rent paid, time off work, bills paid, etc. but needed the bus ticket to get to Poughkeepsie with Mike, the boyfriend and someone else who is also going. I was reluctant--told her how I don't really know if she is telling the truth, that she had lied so much in the past that I don't really trust her. Well, I did finally agree to buy a ticket as an early birthday present (birthday is in May) and that when her birthday comes around she has to remember this was her main present. She agreed, said this is all she wants, needs to get away to clear her head, etc.
So, we left and I told her I would look at the Greyhound bus schedule on line when I got back to work and I could get her a ticket that way. She said she had to check and make sure they were going to Poughkeepsie--should have been a big red flag but I only vaguely felt uneasy. Okay, I get on bus and not 5 min. later she's calling to tell me Mike already got the bus tickets so she just needed money for her food. I wasn't too happy--told her she would need to show me the ticket tomorrow when she is over for difficult child 2's birthday. She agreed.
Well, I thought for awhile and remembered that when I left her she said Mike was at work but here she was with him not 5 min. after we parted. I called her back and she claimed he was on a break. I was getting pretty mad by now.
Okay, this is getting long, will try to shorten it--so we had several phone calls back and forth. She changed the story to say that they might not be taking a bus--someone would drive them and Mike was paying them $40.00. I told her I was sick of the lies. She said she just really wanted to go camping and needed $130.00. I said Mike could pay it and hung up on her and turned my cell phone off.
I am happy I didn't get suckered in but upset that I didn't catch on earlier--always ready to believe her. Also, very angry--it is Friday afternoon and I want to enjoy my weekend, not deal with her bulls----. Tomorrow is younger difficult child's birthday--I will not allow her to ruin that or upstage her or any of that.
Okay, I hope I didn't run out of time and this goes--please respond, need support!
Thanks,
Jane
I believe difficult child 1 was up to her old manipulative ways--want to run this by you guys for an "objective view."
Okay, started really a couple of nights ago--the set up I guess you might say. She called and we chitchatted and then she said that she might be taking some time off work to go hiking on the Appalachian Trail. She was thinking of taking a long weekend or maybe even a week and would be going with boyfriend (he is as big a difficult child as she is, 2 peas in a pod--has left her a couple of times with rent to pay, had her tramping all over New England last summer living in homeless shelters, is 26 yrs old, very much a "drifter"--very restless). I didn't say a whole lot except I was curious how they would pay their April rent if they are taking time off work and she assured me they had it all taken care of.
Okay, she calls me last night and says that she is definitely going--is going for 4 days, Sunday-Wed. We had a nice chat--she said she really needs a break, loves to camp, etc. I got off the phone and told my husband that amazingly she didn't seem to want anything from me, had just called to talk--yeah, right!
Today she called me at work and wondered if she could see me in person to talk about some stuff. I met her downtown on my lunch hour. She started off telling me how her ex-dealer (for heroin) had just moved in across the street from her and how that is sort of freaking her out. I suggested that maybe she should go to an NA meeting and she said she had called our county mental health dept. to maybe set up a meeting with a substance abuse counselor. She then talked about how she doesn't want to go back to that life, etc. She then got to what I believe was the real reason for the visit--said she had everything all set for the camping trip--rent paid, time off work, bills paid, etc. but needed the bus ticket to get to Poughkeepsie with Mike, the boyfriend and someone else who is also going. I was reluctant--told her how I don't really know if she is telling the truth, that she had lied so much in the past that I don't really trust her. Well, I did finally agree to buy a ticket as an early birthday present (birthday is in May) and that when her birthday comes around she has to remember this was her main present. She agreed, said this is all she wants, needs to get away to clear her head, etc.
So, we left and I told her I would look at the Greyhound bus schedule on line when I got back to work and I could get her a ticket that way. She said she had to check and make sure they were going to Poughkeepsie--should have been a big red flag but I only vaguely felt uneasy. Okay, I get on bus and not 5 min. later she's calling to tell me Mike already got the bus tickets so she just needed money for her food. I wasn't too happy--told her she would need to show me the ticket tomorrow when she is over for difficult child 2's birthday. She agreed.
Well, I thought for awhile and remembered that when I left her she said Mike was at work but here she was with him not 5 min. after we parted. I called her back and she claimed he was on a break. I was getting pretty mad by now.
Okay, this is getting long, will try to shorten it--so we had several phone calls back and forth. She changed the story to say that they might not be taking a bus--someone would drive them and Mike was paying them $40.00. I told her I was sick of the lies. She said she just really wanted to go camping and needed $130.00. I said Mike could pay it and hung up on her and turned my cell phone off.
I am happy I didn't get suckered in but upset that I didn't catch on earlier--always ready to believe her. Also, very angry--it is Friday afternoon and I want to enjoy my weekend, not deal with her bulls----. Tomorrow is younger difficult child's birthday--I will not allow her to ruin that or upstage her or any of that.
Okay, I hope I didn't run out of time and this goes--please respond, need support!
Thanks,
Jane
