TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
M spent months taking care of Mom, when she had squamous cell carcinoma on her tongue, and supervised the move to assisted living for Mom and Dad. Then Mom fell and broke her hip in the hospital.
M's daughter was on drugs and was in rehab. (4X. The 4th one did the trick.)
Her son has colon issues; not sure if it's celiac or crohn's but it's taken a chunk out of his life. He will grad from HS in May.
M visited Dad nearly every day, and had to jump through hoops w.assisted living, and the worst part was at the end, when his Alzheimer's moved into the anger stage, and she didn't want him tied down in the psychiatric ward, so she brought him home. The worst two wks of her life. He ended up in the psychiatric ward anyway, and then in hospice.
Her husband has not been supportive through this; just wants her to work and make $. And he second guessed every single medication and dr move that M made, even though he wasn't on board to see what was going on every day. (I hate it when people do that.)
So, last summer, daughter finally got off meth and is doing really, really well. She's staying on her antianxiety medications and going to therapy, and working part time.
Son is going to the dr once a mo for some kind of infusion and is on a gluten free diet.
M's husband lost 30 lbs.
Dad died in June and M got rid of everything in his apt. and settled all the bills.
She spent the summer at friends' lake cabins, partying, writing, speaking, totally enjoying her life. She was like a bird let out of a cage.
Just found out that her husband's s-i-l has Stage IV colon cancer. She had a mass so big that it pushed out her tummy just below her navel. She has been bleeding for a yr. She thought that her herbal remedies and natural water would be enough. NOT.
Her husband, M's b-i-l, has crohn's. He still eats wheat. He weighs about 1 lb. He had a stroke last yr. 2 wks ago, he took too much coumadin and went nutso and ended up in the ER. He's nutso anyway but how he's worse. No way can he care for his wife.
Just for example, he slept through his wife's oncology appointment, where the dr, after the surgery, told them how serious this illness is. Again. Because they hadn't understood the info the first time.
The dr turned to my sister, M, looked her in the eye, and said, "You'll be coming to all the appts, right?"
Arrrrgghhhhh! I feel so badly for her!
She said she just wants to have her son graduate in May, and to have his Big Day, before someone dies.
She was having so much fun, and had really earned her freedom.
Also, she is having a reaction to Effexor. Itching all over and had the entire house sprayed for fleas b4 she realized it could be the medication. She went off of it and is now doing the head-zinging thing. At least she's on estrogen so I hope she won't kill anyone. And she can still drink coffee.
M's daughter was on drugs and was in rehab. (4X. The 4th one did the trick.)
Her son has colon issues; not sure if it's celiac or crohn's but it's taken a chunk out of his life. He will grad from HS in May.
M visited Dad nearly every day, and had to jump through hoops w.assisted living, and the worst part was at the end, when his Alzheimer's moved into the anger stage, and she didn't want him tied down in the psychiatric ward, so she brought him home. The worst two wks of her life. He ended up in the psychiatric ward anyway, and then in hospice.
Her husband has not been supportive through this; just wants her to work and make $. And he second guessed every single medication and dr move that M made, even though he wasn't on board to see what was going on every day. (I hate it when people do that.)
So, last summer, daughter finally got off meth and is doing really, really well. She's staying on her antianxiety medications and going to therapy, and working part time.
Son is going to the dr once a mo for some kind of infusion and is on a gluten free diet.
M's husband lost 30 lbs.
Dad died in June and M got rid of everything in his apt. and settled all the bills.
She spent the summer at friends' lake cabins, partying, writing, speaking, totally enjoying her life. She was like a bird let out of a cage.
Just found out that her husband's s-i-l has Stage IV colon cancer. She had a mass so big that it pushed out her tummy just below her navel. She has been bleeding for a yr. She thought that her herbal remedies and natural water would be enough. NOT.
Her husband, M's b-i-l, has crohn's. He still eats wheat. He weighs about 1 lb. He had a stroke last yr. 2 wks ago, he took too much coumadin and went nutso and ended up in the ER. He's nutso anyway but how he's worse. No way can he care for his wife.
Just for example, he slept through his wife's oncology appointment, where the dr, after the surgery, told them how serious this illness is. Again. Because they hadn't understood the info the first time.
The dr turned to my sister, M, looked her in the eye, and said, "You'll be coming to all the appts, right?"
Arrrrgghhhhh! I feel so badly for her!
She said she just wants to have her son graduate in May, and to have his Big Day, before someone dies.
She was having so much fun, and had really earned her freedom.
Also, she is having a reaction to Effexor. Itching all over and had the entire house sprayed for fleas b4 she realized it could be the medication. She went off of it and is now doing the head-zinging thing. At least she's on estrogen so I hope she won't kill anyone.
And she can still drink coffee.
