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<blockquote data-quote="tryingtobestrong" data-source="post: 758226" data-attributes="member: 22817"><p>Just wanted to give a quick update...</p><p>His coworker invited him to visit her in Florida and since she is working from home he was able to take his keyboard, etc and also work while he is staying with her. She has family issues with her brother and was on the phone with him last night many many times. My son was blowing up my phone about it and how he is bored and has to sit around. He wanted to drink because he was pissed. Now she has a meeting after work today that she forgot and he will have to sit around until she gets done. It is the same old cycle.... he hates his life, why do these things happen to him, etc.</p><p>I sent him a contact number for a recovery coach in the area that said she would love to meet for coffee and discuss their program while he is there visiting. It would give him an hour out.... nope he won't make contact. Suggested he calls his sponsor and set up a zoom meeting while she is away, etc. I would bet he won't do a thing. Instead, blow up my phone about how his life sucks.</p><p>We are encouraging him to get help for his depression/addiction and he is refusing inpatient. Said he will go insane.... He is going that way now! He admitted it.</p><p>I get so angry and upset I just want to say 'Leave me the hell alone! You are going to be 26 years old! It is time to do something different instead of being hell bent on doing it your way!" He said last night in a text he may move to a city closer to us and work from home but needs a girlfriend... He needs friends and a structured living facility for a few months! That is what he needs. NOT A girlfriend so history can repeat itself all over again.</p><p>I had heard that when an adolescent takes their first mind altering substance that their emotional development stops at the age they were at that time. It sure seems like that with him. IS that something you all feel I can say to him? Ask him what age he took his first drink and tell him studies show that his emotional maturity stopped then so his emotional development is that of a 14 yr. old not 26!</p><p>Can that be changed? </p><p>My husband said about moving him home here but the more I think of that the more sick I get. He never listened to the rules when he lived at home so he won't if he comes back.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tryingtobestrong, post: 758226, member: 22817"] Just wanted to give a quick update... His coworker invited him to visit her in Florida and since she is working from home he was able to take his keyboard, etc and also work while he is staying with her. She has family issues with her brother and was on the phone with him last night many many times. My son was blowing up my phone about it and how he is bored and has to sit around. He wanted to drink because he was pissed. Now she has a meeting after work today that she forgot and he will have to sit around until she gets done. It is the same old cycle.... he hates his life, why do these things happen to him, etc. I sent him a contact number for a recovery coach in the area that said she would love to meet for coffee and discuss their program while he is there visiting. It would give him an hour out.... nope he won't make contact. Suggested he calls his sponsor and set up a zoom meeting while she is away, etc. I would bet he won't do a thing. Instead, blow up my phone about how his life sucks. We are encouraging him to get help for his depression/addiction and he is refusing inpatient. Said he will go insane.... He is going that way now! He admitted it. I get so angry and upset I just want to say 'Leave me the hell alone! You are going to be 26 years old! It is time to do something different instead of being hell bent on doing it your way!" He said last night in a text he may move to a city closer to us and work from home but needs a girlfriend... He needs friends and a structured living facility for a few months! That is what he needs. NOT A girlfriend so history can repeat itself all over again. I had heard that when an adolescent takes their first mind altering substance that their emotional development stops at the age they were at that time. It sure seems like that with him. IS that something you all feel I can say to him? Ask him what age he took his first drink and tell him studies show that his emotional maturity stopped then so his emotional development is that of a 14 yr. old not 26! Can that be changed? My husband said about moving him home here but the more I think of that the more sick I get. He never listened to the rules when he lived at home so he won't if he comes back. [/QUOTE]
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