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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 749730" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Dear Awakening,</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry for your situation too. I was married to an alcoholic for 30 yrs. and have lived through insanity on overload. I would also recommend Al anon. I remember one time calling a local rehab to discuss my sons addictions and to try to find out what I could do for him and mentioned..oh by the way I have an alcoholic husband. The woman on the other end stopped me and said to me..can you do me one thing if nothing else? She said, would you please go to at least one Al anon meeting? I dismissed her suggesting still wanting answers on how to fix "them". It took me another year until I walked through the doors of Al anon and still I thought they were going to hand me a list of things to tell me how to keep the alcoholic in my life sober. I was shocked when I learned the program was for "me" and provided tools on how I could cope and get better whether or not the alcoholic got sober and/or my son stopped using drugs. Also, just speaking with others (similar to this forum) you find out you are not alone in the insanity of it all and that believe it or not others are or have experienced (not identical but similar) the things you are going through. There is comfort in that. No one will tell you what you must do, it is a gentle program that if you work it you can derive a lot of wisdom, strength and hope from others that have survived or are trying to survive this horrible disease. Don't worry that you have to speak or saying anything. That is not a criteria until and or if you want to. Most of us when we first enter those doors silently cry and listen to others. Some of us can hardly tell our story without crying because it is so raw and painful discussing it out loud. We are so used to hiding these huge problems (or so we think) from family, friends, co-workers etc. But with time and support you will start to feel better. It is just a suggestion and you will go when you're ready but myself and others have said we wished we had the courage to walk through those doors a long time ago.</p><p></p><p>Take care and keep posting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 749730, member: 23405"] Dear Awakening, I'm sorry for your situation too. I was married to an alcoholic for 30 yrs. and have lived through insanity on overload. I would also recommend Al anon. I remember one time calling a local rehab to discuss my sons addictions and to try to find out what I could do for him and mentioned..oh by the way I have an alcoholic husband. The woman on the other end stopped me and said to me..can you do me one thing if nothing else? She said, would you please go to at least one Al anon meeting? I dismissed her suggesting still wanting answers on how to fix "them". It took me another year until I walked through the doors of Al anon and still I thought they were going to hand me a list of things to tell me how to keep the alcoholic in my life sober. I was shocked when I learned the program was for "me" and provided tools on how I could cope and get better whether or not the alcoholic got sober and/or my son stopped using drugs. Also, just speaking with others (similar to this forum) you find out you are not alone in the insanity of it all and that believe it or not others are or have experienced (not identical but similar) the things you are going through. There is comfort in that. No one will tell you what you must do, it is a gentle program that if you work it you can derive a lot of wisdom, strength and hope from others that have survived or are trying to survive this horrible disease. Don't worry that you have to speak or saying anything. That is not a criteria until and or if you want to. Most of us when we first enter those doors silently cry and listen to others. Some of us can hardly tell our story without crying because it is so raw and painful discussing it out loud. We are so used to hiding these huge problems (or so we think) from family, friends, co-workers etc. But with time and support you will start to feel better. It is just a suggestion and you will go when you're ready but myself and others have said we wished we had the courage to walk through those doors a long time ago. Take care and keep posting. [/QUOTE]
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