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<blockquote data-quote="Awakening1990" data-source="post: 749735" data-attributes="member: 22012"><p>Good morning to all, I really appreciate all the feedback that I've read so far. I'm very familiar with 12 step recovery for I've been in it for years. I use the tools and suggestions to the best of my ability. I do have an alanon sponsor and she has a lot of wisdom that I take in wholeheartedly but she has never had children. She cannot understand the depth at which a mother feels for her child even well into their adulthood. I've had to deal with a lot of addiction in my family of origin and have been able to navigate those waters very well in terms of taking care of myself but it seems to be a whole different ballgame when it comes to my son. Detaching, understanding the connection between my enabling and my pain and the fine line between being a mother who is lovingly detached or wanting to do more than I should. My son has been in between jobs for the last 10 years not keeping one more than 6 months at a time and he has been homeless living in a homeless shelter at one point in time and has couched surfed for the last 10 years. I think part of the problem is that he hasn't had all the "YETS" yet...DUI or Jail... I have had many conversations with my son about drinking and what he has lost because if it. He knows where to find help in AA mainly because as a child he was in those meetings with me while I was getting sober. He really does know what to do and where to go to get help for his drinking but he obviously is not ready to do it. I keep coming back to this board to strengthen my recovery and be reminded of my powerlessness, that I'm not alone and that there is hope for my son to find recovery.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Awakening1990, post: 749735, member: 22012"] Good morning to all, I really appreciate all the feedback that I've read so far. I'm very familiar with 12 step recovery for I've been in it for years. I use the tools and suggestions to the best of my ability. I do have an alanon sponsor and she has a lot of wisdom that I take in wholeheartedly but she has never had children. She cannot understand the depth at which a mother feels for her child even well into their adulthood. I've had to deal with a lot of addiction in my family of origin and have been able to navigate those waters very well in terms of taking care of myself but it seems to be a whole different ballgame when it comes to my son. Detaching, understanding the connection between my enabling and my pain and the fine line between being a mother who is lovingly detached or wanting to do more than I should. My son has been in between jobs for the last 10 years not keeping one more than 6 months at a time and he has been homeless living in a homeless shelter at one point in time and has couched surfed for the last 10 years. I think part of the problem is that he hasn't had all the "YETS" yet...DUI or Jail... I have had many conversations with my son about drinking and what he has lost because if it. He knows where to find help in AA mainly because as a child he was in those meetings with me while I was getting sober. He really does know what to do and where to go to get help for his drinking but he obviously is not ready to do it. I keep coming back to this board to strengthen my recovery and be reminded of my powerlessness, that I'm not alone and that there is hope for my son to find recovery. [/QUOTE]
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