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I actually found this forum awhile ago and never registered because most of the issues we have been facing with our difficult child I found were not unique to our family. I have been able to learn through the various discussions. However, the present problem that we are facing I have not seen discussed so I decided it was time engage.
A little background on our familymy husband and I have been married 31 years. We have two children. Our daughter is 22 and about ready to graduate from college is truly the easy child. Our difficult child son is 20. He has always been a tougher kiddifficult to potty train, lazy in school, difficult to coach, etcbut the real problems began when he started using pot when he was 16 1/2. He has gone through a wilderness program (finished at the highest level), drug rehab and we kicked him out when he was 18. We have also let him come home twice when we thought that he had reached a bottom to find out that he had not.
The current situation is that we sent him to a junior college in California this fall--that is a long story. He did complete his GED. He seemed intent on going to school and we also liked the idea that we would be getting away from his peer group. The fall seemed to be going ok. We knew he was having difficulty in math but we received e-mails from his other teachers indicating he was doing ok. Our conversations were going better, he seemed more positivewe were hopeful that he wanted his situation to change. We brought him home over Christmas break and initially he seemed much better but shortly the old behaviors returned. We sent him back early. In the meantime, we had been hearing from his landlord that there were compliments about noise and another kid living with him. We talked to him about these issues and told him if he was evicted that he would be on his own. He has been evicted before. I am sure you can see a pattern if enabling behavior but I think that I have reached my limit. My husband is not exactly on the same page but I do not think he will go against my wishes.
Here is my present problem. difficult child is scheduled to be evicted this week. However, we just found out he broke his leg according to him by roughhousing. Who knows what the real details are. He is having surgery todaythe hospital called us about insurance. We do not know if he has found another place to stay. Do we leave a kid homeless who has just had surgery? What would you do? Help!
A little background on our familymy husband and I have been married 31 years. We have two children. Our daughter is 22 and about ready to graduate from college is truly the easy child. Our difficult child son is 20. He has always been a tougher kiddifficult to potty train, lazy in school, difficult to coach, etcbut the real problems began when he started using pot when he was 16 1/2. He has gone through a wilderness program (finished at the highest level), drug rehab and we kicked him out when he was 18. We have also let him come home twice when we thought that he had reached a bottom to find out that he had not.
The current situation is that we sent him to a junior college in California this fall--that is a long story. He did complete his GED. He seemed intent on going to school and we also liked the idea that we would be getting away from his peer group. The fall seemed to be going ok. We knew he was having difficulty in math but we received e-mails from his other teachers indicating he was doing ok. Our conversations were going better, he seemed more positivewe were hopeful that he wanted his situation to change. We brought him home over Christmas break and initially he seemed much better but shortly the old behaviors returned. We sent him back early. In the meantime, we had been hearing from his landlord that there were compliments about noise and another kid living with him. We talked to him about these issues and told him if he was evicted that he would be on his own. He has been evicted before. I am sure you can see a pattern if enabling behavior but I think that I have reached my limit. My husband is not exactly on the same page but I do not think he will go against my wishes.
Here is my present problem. difficult child is scheduled to be evicted this week. However, we just found out he broke his leg according to him by roughhousing. Who knows what the real details are. He is having surgery todaythe hospital called us about insurance. We do not know if he has found another place to stay. Do we leave a kid homeless who has just had surgery? What would you do? Help!
