Brokendream
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Hi all,
I honestly never thought that it would come to this but here I am. I sure could use some guidance and advice. I have two grown children. My son is 25, a college grad and currently in the Military. My daughter is 22, employed and the mother of a two year old. She lives with my ex husband. When she was 11, we were in a bad car accident in which she hit her head pretty bad and later on developed epilepsy. She is medicated for it now.
After her baby was born in late 2012, I noticed a huge difference in her personality. She had always helped herself to money in my wallet, my clothes and even pawned some of my jewelry but I attributed that to the crowd she hung out with.
In the past 18 months she borrowed alot of money from me with the understanding she would pay it back once a lawsuit settled. Her suit settled about ten months ago and she hasn't paid a dime but that's not the worst of it.
About six months ago, I noticed money missing from my savings account. It turned out she had taken my debit card and began withdrawing cash from various atm machines. What was real odd about this is she has tens of thousands of dollars in her own accounts and was working two jobs at the time.
In August, I noticed a brand new credit card of mine was over the limit. I hadn't done it so when I looked, I noticed thousands in new charges I did not make. I confronted my daughter because some were items that she had recently acquired. She at first denied it but when faced with proof of some items being hers, she admitted to those. I challenged the rest with the card company but am pretty sure those were hers as well.
Three weeks later, another brand new card that I had hidden in my purse texted me that I was over the limit. I quickly logged on and found thousands of unauthorized charges again. When confronted, my daughter again denied she even knew I had this credit card. Once I mentioned some that were clearly delivered to her home, she admitted to those only and denied the rest. Essentially it was a replay of the first episode.
She said she would pay for those items she admitted to when she paid me the rest of what she owed me. All told, about $15,000.
A few days later, she claimed she deposited the $15K in my savings account for me. It never posted. She made all sorts of excuses that the bank must have lost it but refused to give me the deposit receipt so I could have the bank find the deposit. Eventually, this led to her calling the police on me when I went to her home to request the deposit receipt that she claimed was somewhere in her house. The police told me they didn't think she ever made a deposit and was lying and they also said she admitted to owing me at least $15K.
For months now, she keeps saying she will go to the bank and get the money she owes me but never does. I have expressed that my bills are late and I'm paying interest on the purchases she agreed to pay for but still nothing.
Everytime I push for repayment, she gets volatile and tells me she hates me and I will never see my grandchild again. Then a few days later she is fine but still won't repay what she has agreed to.
Last week, she came here for a few days because she was fighting with her dad. We got along great and once again she promised to pay me. I had not left her alone in my home for six months but I did on the last day she was here. A few days after she moved back in with her dad, I received an email from a bank that I rarely use. It was telling me that I was overdrawn which made no sense as I don't use the account. I called and was told that I had written a check for cash. I hadn't. When told the check number, I had to go find the checkbook which was buried in a closed off room and discovered that one check had been torn from the back of the book. It was the same number as the check for cash.
I was furious when they sent me a screen shot of the check and my signature was forged and my daughter's signature was on the back. This action overdrew an account and since she hasn't paid me, I am so broke it hurts.
I immediately went to the bank and signed papers for forgery. I then went to the police and filed a report. Later my daughter called me all chipper and happy and I went off on her for stealing from me again. I told her that I had been to the police and she began to beg me not to have her arrested. She claimed I gave her this check which is ridiculous.
I hung up on her and later signed my complaint. She was arrested later that night.
Now, she is very angry at me. Of course I'll never see my grandchild according to her and I am never going to be part of her life because of "my" actions. She has flat out refused to pay me anything other than the amount of this forged check if I will drop the charges. I refused. I told her she needed to pay me everything or I was going to keep filing charges.
I'm planning to file charges for the unauthorized credit card charges she never reimbursed me for and for the debit withdrawals. I'm furious but feeling conflicted. I'm stuck on why she would do this and be so hateful toward me when she has more than enough money to not need to steal and to repay what she already took.
She also ran up my son's credit card while he was away at basic training. We both think it was her as the card was left with his dad whom my daughter lives with and the charge was for tickets to a local hockey team's game that my daughter has frequently bought tickets to in the past. What are the odds that some other credit card scammer would purchase tickets to a local hockey game????
My confusion in all of this comes from this game she keeps playing about how she will pay me, then stalls and stalls and stalls. Last week after I had her arrested she told me to take her to court for the money she agreed to pay and to go ahead and keep filing charges against her as she would just get a good attorney and get off.
I don't believe she has a drug problem and she does not have anything to indicate that she has been buying big ticket items. In fact, despite a good income and money in the bank, her car got repossessed last October because she hadn't made any payments in months.
I'm not sure what is going on and I am heartbroken that she keeps doing this to me to the point that I am literally broke and can't pay my bills. Any insight or advice would be most appreciated.
I honestly never thought that it would come to this but here I am. I sure could use some guidance and advice. I have two grown children. My son is 25, a college grad and currently in the Military. My daughter is 22, employed and the mother of a two year old. She lives with my ex husband. When she was 11, we were in a bad car accident in which she hit her head pretty bad and later on developed epilepsy. She is medicated for it now.
After her baby was born in late 2012, I noticed a huge difference in her personality. She had always helped herself to money in my wallet, my clothes and even pawned some of my jewelry but I attributed that to the crowd she hung out with.
In the past 18 months she borrowed alot of money from me with the understanding she would pay it back once a lawsuit settled. Her suit settled about ten months ago and she hasn't paid a dime but that's not the worst of it.
About six months ago, I noticed money missing from my savings account. It turned out she had taken my debit card and began withdrawing cash from various atm machines. What was real odd about this is she has tens of thousands of dollars in her own accounts and was working two jobs at the time.
In August, I noticed a brand new credit card of mine was over the limit. I hadn't done it so when I looked, I noticed thousands in new charges I did not make. I confronted my daughter because some were items that she had recently acquired. She at first denied it but when faced with proof of some items being hers, she admitted to those. I challenged the rest with the card company but am pretty sure those were hers as well.
Three weeks later, another brand new card that I had hidden in my purse texted me that I was over the limit. I quickly logged on and found thousands of unauthorized charges again. When confronted, my daughter again denied she even knew I had this credit card. Once I mentioned some that were clearly delivered to her home, she admitted to those only and denied the rest. Essentially it was a replay of the first episode.
She said she would pay for those items she admitted to when she paid me the rest of what she owed me. All told, about $15,000.
A few days later, she claimed she deposited the $15K in my savings account for me. It never posted. She made all sorts of excuses that the bank must have lost it but refused to give me the deposit receipt so I could have the bank find the deposit. Eventually, this led to her calling the police on me when I went to her home to request the deposit receipt that she claimed was somewhere in her house. The police told me they didn't think she ever made a deposit and was lying and they also said she admitted to owing me at least $15K.
For months now, she keeps saying she will go to the bank and get the money she owes me but never does. I have expressed that my bills are late and I'm paying interest on the purchases she agreed to pay for but still nothing.
Everytime I push for repayment, she gets volatile and tells me she hates me and I will never see my grandchild again. Then a few days later she is fine but still won't repay what she has agreed to.
Last week, she came here for a few days because she was fighting with her dad. We got along great and once again she promised to pay me. I had not left her alone in my home for six months but I did on the last day she was here. A few days after she moved back in with her dad, I received an email from a bank that I rarely use. It was telling me that I was overdrawn which made no sense as I don't use the account. I called and was told that I had written a check for cash. I hadn't. When told the check number, I had to go find the checkbook which was buried in a closed off room and discovered that one check had been torn from the back of the book. It was the same number as the check for cash.
I was furious when they sent me a screen shot of the check and my signature was forged and my daughter's signature was on the back. This action overdrew an account and since she hasn't paid me, I am so broke it hurts.
I immediately went to the bank and signed papers for forgery. I then went to the police and filed a report. Later my daughter called me all chipper and happy and I went off on her for stealing from me again. I told her that I had been to the police and she began to beg me not to have her arrested. She claimed I gave her this check which is ridiculous.
I hung up on her and later signed my complaint. She was arrested later that night.
Now, she is very angry at me. Of course I'll never see my grandchild according to her and I am never going to be part of her life because of "my" actions. She has flat out refused to pay me anything other than the amount of this forged check if I will drop the charges. I refused. I told her she needed to pay me everything or I was going to keep filing charges.
I'm planning to file charges for the unauthorized credit card charges she never reimbursed me for and for the debit withdrawals. I'm furious but feeling conflicted. I'm stuck on why she would do this and be so hateful toward me when she has more than enough money to not need to steal and to repay what she already took.
She also ran up my son's credit card while he was away at basic training. We both think it was her as the card was left with his dad whom my daughter lives with and the charge was for tickets to a local hockey team's game that my daughter has frequently bought tickets to in the past. What are the odds that some other credit card scammer would purchase tickets to a local hockey game????
My confusion in all of this comes from this game she keeps playing about how she will pay me, then stalls and stalls and stalls. Last week after I had her arrested she told me to take her to court for the money she agreed to pay and to go ahead and keep filing charges against her as she would just get a good attorney and get off.
I don't believe she has a drug problem and she does not have anything to indicate that she has been buying big ticket items. In fact, despite a good income and money in the bank, her car got repossessed last October because she hadn't made any payments in months.
I'm not sure what is going on and I am heartbroken that she keeps doing this to me to the point that I am literally broke and can't pay my bills. Any insight or advice would be most appreciated.
