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<blockquote data-quote="SeekingStrength" data-source="post: 747293" data-attributes="member: 17635"><p>Hey there, Gma,</p><p></p><p>Welcome to this forum; you will find it incredibly helpful and soothing. I found it years ago while trying to figure out how to stop enabling our eldest son.</p><p></p><p>These wise folks will help you see the forest for the trees. This is such a difficult road to walk.</p><p></p><p>Off the cuff, my advice is to totally stop enabling the daughter. That is what husband and I did with our difficult son (after years of enabling him because he guilted us and we fell for it). It was horrible at first. He reacted just as the members of this forum told me he would - ramped it up, became more hateful than ever, badmouthed us to everyone, etc.</p><p></p><p>Years later, we have no communication. Hopefully, that will all improve some day. For right now, husband and I are in a better place than we have been in several years. </p><p></p><p>Like you, we have two younger children (now 20 and 34) who had to put up with way too much while we tried to "normalize" life with our eldest in the house. (That never happened.)</p><p></p><p>There are no grandchildren involved. That is a whole other ballgame, but folks in the same sad situation will chime in before too long.</p><p></p><p>Hang with us.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>SS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeekingStrength, post: 747293, member: 17635"] Hey there, Gma, Welcome to this forum; you will find it incredibly helpful and soothing. I found it years ago while trying to figure out how to stop enabling our eldest son. These wise folks will help you see the forest for the trees. This is such a difficult road to walk. Off the cuff, my advice is to totally stop enabling the daughter. That is what husband and I did with our difficult son (after years of enabling him because he guilted us and we fell for it). It was horrible at first. He reacted just as the members of this forum told me he would - ramped it up, became more hateful than ever, badmouthed us to everyone, etc. Years later, we have no communication. Hopefully, that will all improve some day. For right now, husband and I are in a better place than we have been in several years. Like you, we have two younger children (now 20 and 34) who had to put up with way too much while we tried to "normalize" life with our eldest in the house. (That never happened.) There are no grandchildren involved. That is a whole other ballgame, but folks in the same sad situation will chime in before too long. Hang with us. Hugs, SS [/QUOTE]
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