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<blockquote data-quote="Gma2MH" data-source="post: 747299" data-attributes="member: 23681"><p>Definitely yes, to that hard reality. When the g-kids aren’t being withheld she is constantly comparing us to the g-kids other grandparents who are, of course, the best out there and not “neglectful” like we are lol. Their other grandparents are just fine and we don’t have a problem with them, it’s only our daughter who creates and apparently believes in these issues. </p><p></p><p>As was pointed out to me earlier, I do need to strengthen my boundaries with our daughter. I let that all go to hell when our grandkids arrived. If I’m honest that probably went to hell when we met and developed a relationship with our daughter’s young stepkids who we think of the same as our bio grandkids. Thinking back to that time, our daughter ramped up her demanding behavior with me when she saw that her stepkids (who live full time with my daughter and son in law, their bio mom is not in the picture) liked us ...she was immediately insistent that we take on the role of grandparents instead of just letting it happen organically. I knew that was a red flag even then.</p><p></p><p>I’m frustrated with myself that I let my boundaries unravel with her a few years back but at least that part is fixable. I know what to do and just have to do it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Gma2MH, post: 747299, member: 23681"] Definitely yes, to that hard reality. When the g-kids aren’t being withheld she is constantly comparing us to the g-kids other grandparents who are, of course, the best out there and not “neglectful” like we are lol. Their other grandparents are just fine and we don’t have a problem with them, it’s only our daughter who creates and apparently believes in these issues. As was pointed out to me earlier, I do need to strengthen my boundaries with our daughter. I let that all go to hell when our grandkids arrived. If I’m honest that probably went to hell when we met and developed a relationship with our daughter’s young stepkids who we think of the same as our bio grandkids. Thinking back to that time, our daughter ramped up her demanding behavior with me when she saw that her stepkids (who live full time with my daughter and son in law, their bio mom is not in the picture) liked us ...she was immediately insistent that we take on the role of grandparents instead of just letting it happen organically. I knew that was a red flag even then. I’m frustrated with myself that I let my boundaries unravel with her a few years back but at least that part is fixable. I know what to do and just have to do it. [/QUOTE]
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