Kat, Ihope you stick around for a long time I don't usually think about this anymore. And it's so much more than this attempt at slander. After my father passed, it swelled up, but it will go away again soon when everything is done. I know who I really am. My family gave me many false labels that I once believed, but I don't anymore. I am sad and embarrassed that I can still get worked up over these things, but it is just another learning curb of this life. "This too shall pass." I think you are a very insightful mother and a strong person.