Hound dog
Nana's are Beautiful
First a bit of background, at least what I know.
boyfriend's Mom is an odd person. (which just might account for some of boyfriend's gfgdom) I try not to judge her because I simply don't know her that well. But to be honest, from what I do know and have seen, we aren't likely to become friends of any sort. She comes across cold as ice, far too concerned with "appearances", I know she has some strong OCDish type traits (I see them as traits more than the disorder), some anxiety. But mostly what I've seen myself, heard from her husband and son, as well as Nichole, AND her husband's parents and sister is that she has the "poor pity me" thing to the Nth degree. Doesn't matter what an issue might be, somehow it must involve her/be about her/come down to poor her, if you know what I mean.
Reminds me quite a bit of my own mother, which tells me I myself wouldn't be able to tolerate it for long without it grating on my nerves.
However Nichole has not only tolerated this woman but she's kept her mouth shut. boyfriend's Mom seemed to adore her up until the baby was born. I can't tell you how many times Nichole has come home because boyfriend's Mom is either criticizing her to death or trying to take over the care of Aubrey. It's not just Nichole. The woman does this to her husband and boyfriend too. They both tell me that it's always been that way, just has gotten severely worse in the past several years.
Okay. Now boyfriend's Mom has a dog. Since she got this dog a year ago, Nichole has actually taken care of it more than anyone else. boyfriend's Mom keeps the poor thing in it's crate all of the time. There have been several incidences of the dog snapping at the baby. Nichole popped it on the nose and told it No. (the way we do our dogs, more to startle than hurt) boyfriend's Mom got mad each time and told Nichole that the dog could do what she wants it's HER house. Nichole asked her if she minded the dog actually biting Aubrey, cuz if she let her nip her that would be next. boyfriend's Mom kept telling her it was the dogs house. Nichole told boyfriend Mom that if she was going to let the dog hurt her own grandchild, maybe Aubrey shouldn't visit.
What wound up happening was Nichole ignored boyfriend Mom and still pops the dog on the nose if it trys to snap at the baby. But bare in mind Nichole is also the one playing with the dog, giving it affection, training it, ect. Because if she didn't the dog would be locked in it's crate 18 to 20 hrs a day.
Now I guess these past few weeks boyfriend's Mom has been telling them to get out of the livingroom with the excuse she needs to feed the dog. Nichole and boyfriend have done it. The problem is that when they have to be in boyfriend's room the baby has to be in a playpen, so she screams. There is no room for her to play, and too much electronical equiptment in the room to just let her be in the room with them.
So evidently it's been building.
This morning they were in the livingrm and the Mom told them to go to the bedroom. Nichole asked her if she even wanted to see Aubrey anymore, cuz all she did was send them to the bedroom now.
(Nichole admits the comment is what started it)
boyfriend Mom blew a gasket. Evidently it was vicious, ugly, and brutal. Nichole was ungrateful, she neglected the baby while she was there, she makes boyfriend do everything for her and the baby, she USES boyfriend, she makes the Mom cook for her and care for the baby.... And well that was the jest of it in much politer terms.
Nichole calls home sobbing. I think Uh Oh she and boyfriend are fighting. I ask what's wrong. When she tells me I ask if she wants me to send her Dad. (I sound calm cuz I'm in shock lol) She tells me to wait, but she'll call if she needs a ride. I asked her if boyfriend stood up for her. She said well no. I made no comment.
I hang up. Now I know it had to be awfully bad because Nichole won't sob like that in front of just anyone. But I try not to let it bother me.
Awhile later she calls again. She needs her dad NOW. So I send him.
She had packed all of Aubrey's belongings and brought them home.
After the first phone call the "arguement" continued, only boyfriend's Dad had stepped in to defend Nichole, which in turn had boyfriend stepping in to come to her defense too. Nichole said the Dad was telling the Mom that she was way out of bounds, what she was saying wasn't true, ect.
As it stands at the moment Nichole and Aubrey won't be going back. I didn't voice an opinion on the fight. But I did tell Nichole that she did the right thing. She has the right to be treated with respect. That it might be the Mom's home (and what she says goes there), that doesn't give her the right to treat Nichole like a peon.
Nichole and boyfriend stayed here this evening. boyfriend is backing Nichole although it's not going to make life easy with his Mom. And Nichole feels bad because boyfriend's Dad adores Aubrey, so she told boyfriend to tell him he can come see her whenever he wants just to call first.
What an ugly situation. But I'm assuming Nichole was the innocent in the attack (other than the initial comment) because boyfriend told me tonight Nichole did nothing wrong. His Mom just went nuts. And boyfriend's Dad made sure Nichole knew she and the baby would still be included in the family xmas, and if his wife didn't like it she could stay home. lol :slap:
boyfriend's Mom is an odd person. (which just might account for some of boyfriend's gfgdom) I try not to judge her because I simply don't know her that well. But to be honest, from what I do know and have seen, we aren't likely to become friends of any sort. She comes across cold as ice, far too concerned with "appearances", I know she has some strong OCDish type traits (I see them as traits more than the disorder), some anxiety. But mostly what I've seen myself, heard from her husband and son, as well as Nichole, AND her husband's parents and sister is that she has the "poor pity me" thing to the Nth degree. Doesn't matter what an issue might be, somehow it must involve her/be about her/come down to poor her, if you know what I mean.
Reminds me quite a bit of my own mother, which tells me I myself wouldn't be able to tolerate it for long without it grating on my nerves.
However Nichole has not only tolerated this woman but she's kept her mouth shut. boyfriend's Mom seemed to adore her up until the baby was born. I can't tell you how many times Nichole has come home because boyfriend's Mom is either criticizing her to death or trying to take over the care of Aubrey. It's not just Nichole. The woman does this to her husband and boyfriend too. They both tell me that it's always been that way, just has gotten severely worse in the past several years.
Okay. Now boyfriend's Mom has a dog. Since she got this dog a year ago, Nichole has actually taken care of it more than anyone else. boyfriend's Mom keeps the poor thing in it's crate all of the time. There have been several incidences of the dog snapping at the baby. Nichole popped it on the nose and told it No. (the way we do our dogs, more to startle than hurt) boyfriend's Mom got mad each time and told Nichole that the dog could do what she wants it's HER house. Nichole asked her if she minded the dog actually biting Aubrey, cuz if she let her nip her that would be next. boyfriend's Mom kept telling her it was the dogs house. Nichole told boyfriend Mom that if she was going to let the dog hurt her own grandchild, maybe Aubrey shouldn't visit.
What wound up happening was Nichole ignored boyfriend Mom and still pops the dog on the nose if it trys to snap at the baby. But bare in mind Nichole is also the one playing with the dog, giving it affection, training it, ect. Because if she didn't the dog would be locked in it's crate 18 to 20 hrs a day.
Now I guess these past few weeks boyfriend's Mom has been telling them to get out of the livingroom with the excuse she needs to feed the dog. Nichole and boyfriend have done it. The problem is that when they have to be in boyfriend's room the baby has to be in a playpen, so she screams. There is no room for her to play, and too much electronical equiptment in the room to just let her be in the room with them.
So evidently it's been building.
This morning they were in the livingrm and the Mom told them to go to the bedroom. Nichole asked her if she even wanted to see Aubrey anymore, cuz all she did was send them to the bedroom now.
(Nichole admits the comment is what started it)
boyfriend Mom blew a gasket. Evidently it was vicious, ugly, and brutal. Nichole was ungrateful, she neglected the baby while she was there, she makes boyfriend do everything for her and the baby, she USES boyfriend, she makes the Mom cook for her and care for the baby.... And well that was the jest of it in much politer terms.
Nichole calls home sobbing. I think Uh Oh she and boyfriend are fighting. I ask what's wrong. When she tells me I ask if she wants me to send her Dad. (I sound calm cuz I'm in shock lol) She tells me to wait, but she'll call if she needs a ride. I asked her if boyfriend stood up for her. She said well no. I made no comment.
I hang up. Now I know it had to be awfully bad because Nichole won't sob like that in front of just anyone. But I try not to let it bother me.
Awhile later she calls again. She needs her dad NOW. So I send him.
She had packed all of Aubrey's belongings and brought them home.
After the first phone call the "arguement" continued, only boyfriend's Dad had stepped in to defend Nichole, which in turn had boyfriend stepping in to come to her defense too. Nichole said the Dad was telling the Mom that she was way out of bounds, what she was saying wasn't true, ect.
As it stands at the moment Nichole and Aubrey won't be going back. I didn't voice an opinion on the fight. But I did tell Nichole that she did the right thing. She has the right to be treated with respect. That it might be the Mom's home (and what she says goes there), that doesn't give her the right to treat Nichole like a peon.
Nichole and boyfriend stayed here this evening. boyfriend is backing Nichole although it's not going to make life easy with his Mom. And Nichole feels bad because boyfriend's Dad adores Aubrey, so she told boyfriend to tell him he can come see her whenever he wants just to call first.
What an ugly situation. But I'm assuming Nichole was the innocent in the attack (other than the initial comment) because boyfriend told me tonight Nichole did nothing wrong. His Mom just went nuts. And boyfriend's Dad made sure Nichole knew she and the baby would still be included in the family xmas, and if his wife didn't like it she could stay home. lol :slap:
) Were Nichole and boyfriend living at boyfriend's mom's house? If so, it sounds as though they may have worn out their welcome with his mom. It's too bad she couldn't have been more adult about it if they were getting on her nerves.
