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No Ho-Ho-Ho’s this year..
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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 754457" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi TMT, so sorry for your need to be back here, and sorry for all that is going on with your son and now daughter. What a blow to the gut. I am flabbergasted that at 31, she would succumb to crack? It’s awful stuff.</p><p>I am so sorry. It is hard enough with one adult child wayward, I do know the pain of having two gone down the rabbit hole.</p><p>I am making my resolution to not only survive this, but to do my best to thrive. Too many years of going down the tubes with my twos choices. Struggling to come to the surface for air. Feeling strong and then wham, something happens to pull the rug from under me and I have to start all over again to build myself back up. It’s exhausting. I have come to realize that while my two are drugknapped I am nothing more than an opportunity to them to try and get whatever they want, to use my resources and my love to continue as is. I don’t want to subject myself to that. I hope that they will come to their senses and find their potential, I just know from too many years of trying that I am not the one to fix them. And, yes I write that over and again as a reminder to myself. There is always that inner critical voice, posing the question about reengaging.”But they are your children.....”</p><p>My strong voice replies, “Yes, that is true, but they are also adults making some very terrible choices, that pose a very real danger to my own peace of mind and the sanctuary of my home.”</p><p>It is a hard journey we are all on, processing the lifestyles of our beloveds. We all deal with this differently. I pray for your continued strength and healing. It’s a huge dose of “It is what it is”. You sound strong and have a plan. We can only control our own choices. If we only had a magic wand to wave and change things, but we don’t. But, we do have the choice to give it to our higher power. That is what I am having to constantly work at. Letting go and letting God. It is way too much to handle on my own.</p><p>Wishing you peace.</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 754457, member: 19522"] Hi TMT, so sorry for your need to be back here, and sorry for all that is going on with your son and now daughter. What a blow to the gut. I am flabbergasted that at 31, she would succumb to crack? It’s awful stuff. I am so sorry. It is hard enough with one adult child wayward, I do know the pain of having two gone down the rabbit hole. I am making my resolution to not only survive this, but to do my best to thrive. Too many years of going down the tubes with my twos choices. Struggling to come to the surface for air. Feeling strong and then wham, something happens to pull the rug from under me and I have to start all over again to build myself back up. It’s exhausting. I have come to realize that while my two are drugknapped I am nothing more than an opportunity to them to try and get whatever they want, to use my resources and my love to continue as is. I don’t want to subject myself to that. I hope that they will come to their senses and find their potential, I just know from too many years of trying that I am not the one to fix them. And, yes I write that over and again as a reminder to myself. There is always that inner critical voice, posing the question about reengaging.”But they are your children.....” My strong voice replies, “Yes, that is true, but they are also adults making some very terrible choices, that pose a very real danger to my own peace of mind and the sanctuary of my home.” It is a hard journey we are all on, processing the lifestyles of our beloveds. We all deal with this differently. I pray for your continued strength and healing. It’s a huge dose of “It is what it is”. You sound strong and have a plan. We can only control our own choices. If we only had a magic wand to wave and change things, but we don’t. But, we do have the choice to give it to our higher power. That is what I am having to constantly work at. Letting go and letting God. It is way too much to handle on my own. Wishing you peace. (((Hugs))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
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