tryingtobestrong
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As you all know my adult child was discharged from a 30 day treatment program for alcohol/drug addiction 2 weeks ago. went in willingly after 2 other unsuccessful tries. About 2 weeks into the program signed the release for counselor to talk to me and when she did I could hear the joy in her voice. She said how S has really come around, was laughing and smiling with the other patients. She said was doing really well and she could see true personality starting to appear.
Before discharge he got his 30 day token and was so proud.
said he would continue working out with the program they gave him in treatment. While at treatment worked out daily.
We feared S going back to live alone in his apartment
The day after discharge sent me a text about how bad his depression was. As the weeks go on the depression is getting worse.
I have notified the IOP numerous times. They tell me they are aware of it.
So, last night he FaceTImed with us.... So very sad. ained the weight back.no expression, no desire to live.. Does nothing except go to work, IOP and AA meetings. Will go to meetings back to back just to avoid sitting in apartment. Refuses to go to the gym, cook, etc.
met a girl at detox-remained friends with her. She had relapsed and now is in a sober living home and likes it. goes to meetings with her and stays in touch. I said maybe he should try sober living and it was immediately NO.
told him he has a whole new life ahead of him now that he is sober and he needs to take it one day at a time. Not to look back. ( I remember him telling me that he isn't going to look back anymore- he said that on the phone while in treatment )
I asked if there was anything I could do for him and I got "NO, YOU KNOW WHAT I NEED"
I so want ask him how was it that when he was in treatment he was happy, he had a entire new outlook on life and as soon as he is back to living alone he switches back to the depressed guy who refuses to do anything that may make him feel better? They gave him a workout plan. They promoted sober activity events to meet others, etc.
He said he doesn't want to live anymore.
I just want to reach through the phone and shake him. What happened to the guy that was in treatment and was laughing and having fun with the guys. When he would call he would say "I have to go, tonight is game night, etc.
Can I remind him of how he was? My counselor said I am not to do that. I just don't understand why he is so against sober living and having people around.
Sorry again for my long post. You all are all I have to talk to. My marriage is about over. I am just to overwhelmed with my AS to care about anything else.
Before discharge he got his 30 day token and was so proud.
said he would continue working out with the program they gave him in treatment. While at treatment worked out daily.
We feared S going back to live alone in his apartment
The day after discharge sent me a text about how bad his depression was. As the weeks go on the depression is getting worse.
I have notified the IOP numerous times. They tell me they are aware of it.
So, last night he FaceTImed with us.... So very sad. ained the weight back.no expression, no desire to live.. Does nothing except go to work, IOP and AA meetings. Will go to meetings back to back just to avoid sitting in apartment. Refuses to go to the gym, cook, etc.
met a girl at detox-remained friends with her. She had relapsed and now is in a sober living home and likes it. goes to meetings with her and stays in touch. I said maybe he should try sober living and it was immediately NO.
told him he has a whole new life ahead of him now that he is sober and he needs to take it one day at a time. Not to look back. ( I remember him telling me that he isn't going to look back anymore- he said that on the phone while in treatment )
I asked if there was anything I could do for him and I got "NO, YOU KNOW WHAT I NEED"
I so want ask him how was it that when he was in treatment he was happy, he had a entire new outlook on life and as soon as he is back to living alone he switches back to the depressed guy who refuses to do anything that may make him feel better? They gave him a workout plan. They promoted sober activity events to meet others, etc.
He said he doesn't want to live anymore.
I just want to reach through the phone and shake him. What happened to the guy that was in treatment and was laughing and having fun with the guys. When he would call he would say "I have to go, tonight is game night, etc.
Can I remind him of how he was? My counselor said I am not to do that. I just don't understand why he is so against sober living and having people around.
Sorry again for my long post. You all are all I have to talk to. My marriage is about over. I am just to overwhelmed with my AS to care about anything else.
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