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<blockquote data-quote="LauraH" data-source="post: 745989" data-attributes="member: 22877"><p>I think you're on to something. Afraid of success, or thinking "If I did good this time they'll expect me to keep doing it so I need to stop while I'm ahead." In elementary school he was put in a gifted extracurricular program because of his good grades. The next report card he lost his eligibility because he went from mostly As and a few Bs to Cs, Ds, and one F. </p><p></p><p>And I think he does believe that going from Place A to Place B (or going back to Place B in his case) is going to mean success at last, even though Place B (Chicago) is where his addiction was at its worst and between that and the relationship from hell he lost literally everything...job, apartment, everything. Things were going to be different when we left Georgia for Florida...they weren't. Things were going to be different when he left Daytona to go to Orlando...they weren't. Things were going to be different when he left Florida for Chicago...they were for about six months and then went right back to his normal self destructive tendencies. Things were going to be different when he came back to Florida...so far they're not. Now things will be different when Iif) he goes back to Chicago...sure they will.</p><p></p><p>I'm not near the point of giving up, I'm AT that point now. I've always had faith that he would have an A-Ha moment that would turn him around. Now the only thing I have faith in is that there is a reason for everything and that God is in control so if it's a worst case scenario, He will give me the strength to get through it somehow. But I have lost all faith in believing that my son will one day grow up, get clean, and make a decent life for himself. </p><p></p><p>Currently, should I outlive my husband, my son gets everything, such as it is (not much) but it will be meted out judiciously by my niece. Everything would probably be around $10k, which isn't a lot, but enough for him to "live the life" for a week or so and then be destitute again. That will not happen under my niece's supervision of my estate.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LauraH, post: 745989, member: 22877"] I think you're on to something. Afraid of success, or thinking "If I did good this time they'll expect me to keep doing it so I need to stop while I'm ahead." In elementary school he was put in a gifted extracurricular program because of his good grades. The next report card he lost his eligibility because he went from mostly As and a few Bs to Cs, Ds, and one F. And I think he does believe that going from Place A to Place B (or going back to Place B in his case) is going to mean success at last, even though Place B (Chicago) is where his addiction was at its worst and between that and the relationship from hell he lost literally everything...job, apartment, everything. Things were going to be different when we left Georgia for Florida...they weren't. Things were going to be different when he left Daytona to go to Orlando...they weren't. Things were going to be different when he left Florida for Chicago...they were for about six months and then went right back to his normal self destructive tendencies. Things were going to be different when he came back to Florida...so far they're not. Now things will be different when Iif) he goes back to Chicago...sure they will. I'm not near the point of giving up, I'm AT that point now. I've always had faith that he would have an A-Ha moment that would turn him around. Now the only thing I have faith in is that there is a reason for everything and that God is in control so if it's a worst case scenario, He will give me the strength to get through it somehow. But I have lost all faith in believing that my son will one day grow up, get clean, and make a decent life for himself. Currently, should I outlive my husband, my son gets everything, such as it is (not much) but it will be meted out judiciously by my niece. Everything would probably be around $10k, which isn't a lot, but enough for him to "live the life" for a week or so and then be destitute again. That will not happen under my niece's supervision of my estate. [/QUOTE]
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