Heartbroken I'm right with you. Because we can't change anyone else, the changing if about us. It's been a long hard road, but I am learning to make my welfare and well-being as important as those around me. Finally I can say that this is not selfish; it is important emotional and physical health. I also have none of the problems in my work life and social life that I have with my two difficult adult children. It hurts, but I have accepted the way it is. Thanks again to everyone for their shares.