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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 171587" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Sara I was thinking about this lately.</p><p></p><p>While we shouldn't blame parents it doesn't mean that any of us couldn't find ways to improve our parenting. The blanket mindset that parents are not part of the problem is somewhat naive. Sometimes they are a big problem. Although the knee jerk reaction of many professionals that the problem is all the parents fault is ridiculously ignorant.</p><p></p><p>I tend to always look at myself to see what I do that creates or adds to the negative situation in my home. Not only with difficult child but with easy child, husband, siblings, and friends. I take full responsibility for my parenting blunders but I always evaluate and try to adjust my responses so that difficult child's best interest is the bottom line. I don't believe any of us should believe there isn't something more to be learned or another viewpoint to consider. I don't have the arrogance to believe my way is the right way.Our results are not reflective of success as we would like. </p><p></p><p>I want my son's to learn from their mistakes. Why wouldn't I also learn from my own? Admitting mistakes goes a long way towards learning and improving. </p><p></p><p>Hopefully, I am discussing and not hammering but I understand what TM is saying and agree. The most helpful information I have received is usually from someone who has set an example and has had success or I respect their work/parenting of their difficult child.</p><p></p><p>Lighten up a little, Sara.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 171587, member: 3"] Sara I was thinking about this lately. While we shouldn't blame parents it doesn't mean that any of us couldn't find ways to improve our parenting. The blanket mindset that parents are not part of the problem is somewhat naive. Sometimes they are a big problem. Although the knee jerk reaction of many professionals that the problem is all the parents fault is ridiculously ignorant. I tend to always look at myself to see what I do that creates or adds to the negative situation in my home. Not only with difficult child but with easy child, husband, siblings, and friends. I take full responsibility for my parenting blunders but I always evaluate and try to adjust my responses so that difficult child's best interest is the bottom line. I don't believe any of us should believe there isn't something more to be learned or another viewpoint to consider. I don't have the arrogance to believe my way is the right way.Our results are not reflective of success as we would like. I want my son's to learn from their mistakes. Why wouldn't I also learn from my own? Admitting mistakes goes a long way towards learning and improving. Hopefully, I am discussing and not hammering but I understand what TM is saying and agree. The most helpful information I have received is usually from someone who has set an example and has had success or I respect their work/parenting of their difficult child. Lighten up a little, Sara. [/QUOTE]
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