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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 171598" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, I've had five kids that I all pretty much parented the same way. One ended up taking drugs. She was overly sensitive from the start...and always very into what her peers would think. The one thing I know I did that triggered her drug use was move her to another state in 7th grade...she was all alone and so shy that she sat alone at lunch until the "bad kids" befriended her. That was my error and I've talked to her about my mistake many times. However, I just don't buy that children who have autism, bipolar, etc. are products of wrong parenting. While we can all learn methods to better help our kids with their problems, we didn't CAUSE the problems. Mental illness as well as neurological differences are inherited. I actually took a parenting course once and it was snoozeworthy. I'd tried all the methods suggestsed with my autistic son, but he never responded to conventional parenting theories. Understanding Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) helped more than anything and today he is a very compliant child because he is no longer frustrated (my take on it). </p><p>Sara, we didn't cause our children's problems nor can all kids be parented to behave. I was one of those kids. If my mother told me to do something, my stock response was "make me." A rage would follow if she pursued it, even if she was calm. </p><p>I disagree with your post. You had one kid. I had five. You can't just fix it with "appropriate" parenting. Kids are born with their own temperaments and one size does not fit all. Your experience with your one child has nothing to do with any of our experiences.</p><p>Sara, if you don't believe it, that's fine, but why start a thread trying to get us to "admit" our parenting issues? How is that helpful?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 171598, member: 1550"] Well, I've had five kids that I all pretty much parented the same way. One ended up taking drugs. She was overly sensitive from the start...and always very into what her peers would think. The one thing I know I did that triggered her drug use was move her to another state in 7th grade...she was all alone and so shy that she sat alone at lunch until the "bad kids" befriended her. That was my error and I've talked to her about my mistake many times. However, I just don't buy that children who have autism, bipolar, etc. are products of wrong parenting. While we can all learn methods to better help our kids with their problems, we didn't CAUSE the problems. Mental illness as well as neurological differences are inherited. I actually took a parenting course once and it was snoozeworthy. I'd tried all the methods suggestsed with my autistic son, but he never responded to conventional parenting theories. Understanding Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) helped more than anything and today he is a very compliant child because he is no longer frustrated (my take on it). Sara, we didn't cause our children's problems nor can all kids be parented to behave. I was one of those kids. If my mother told me to do something, my stock response was "make me." A rage would follow if she pursued it, even if she was calm. I disagree with your post. You had one kid. I had five. You can't just fix it with "appropriate" parenting. Kids are born with their own temperaments and one size does not fit all. Your experience with your one child has nothing to do with any of our experiences. Sara, if you don't believe it, that's fine, but why start a thread trying to get us to "admit" our parenting issues? How is that helpful? [/QUOTE]
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