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<blockquote data-quote="KTMom91" data-source="post: 171647" data-attributes="member: 4040"><p>Nature vs. nurture is a topic I have been interested in for quite a while. Is there any definitive way to know how much of our childrens' behavior is genetically driven or how much is in response to their environment? I appreciate the suggestions others who have dealt with similar issues offer. Speaking personally, by the time I found this board, I was seriously bruised and battered, and questioning myself regarding everything in my life. If I couldn't even raise my daughter right, what else was I doing wrong? Having people offer their support and understanding by saying I was a great parent gave me the strength to get up and try again. I was here and looking for answers on how to do my job better. </p><p></p><p>Miss KT's father and I separated when she was 3, and she did not see him consistently for several years after that (his choice). If the nurture theory is 100&#37; correct, she should behave like me, reflect the same values, same work ethic, etc., because she was raised by me, not her father. This is the example I set. If it's 100% nature, nothing I did or can do in the future will change the outcome. If she is genetically disposed to being a homicidal ax-murderer, she will be a homicidal ax-murderer, and no amount of love and care will change that. </p><p></p><p>I believe the truth lies somewhere in between. While there is a physical cause for many of our childrens' difficulties, the way we as parents react, respond, and actively participate in parenting skills and styles can improve the overall situation. I don't believe we can change the nature, but we can improve the situation through nurturing our children in the best possible way. This board is one of the ways I have chosen to nurture Miss KT.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KTMom91, post: 171647, member: 4040"] Nature vs. nurture is a topic I have been interested in for quite a while. Is there any definitive way to know how much of our childrens' behavior is genetically driven or how much is in response to their environment? I appreciate the suggestions others who have dealt with similar issues offer. Speaking personally, by the time I found this board, I was seriously bruised and battered, and questioning myself regarding everything in my life. If I couldn't even raise my daughter right, what else was I doing wrong? Having people offer their support and understanding by saying I was a great parent gave me the strength to get up and try again. I was here and looking for answers on how to do my job better. Miss KT's father and I separated when she was 3, and she did not see him consistently for several years after that (his choice). If the nurture theory is 100% correct, she should behave like me, reflect the same values, same work ethic, etc., because she was raised by me, not her father. This is the example I set. If it's 100% nature, nothing I did or can do in the future will change the outcome. If she is genetically disposed to being a homicidal ax-murderer, she will be a homicidal ax-murderer, and no amount of love and care will change that. I believe the truth lies somewhere in between. While there is a physical cause for many of our childrens' difficulties, the way we as parents react, respond, and actively participate in parenting skills and styles can improve the overall situation. I don't believe we can change the nature, but we can improve the situation through nurturing our children in the best possible way. This board is one of the ways I have chosen to nurture Miss KT. [/QUOTE]
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