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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 747005" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>You said no and he found his wallet and paid the rent. Are you seeing the pattern that I am seeing?</p><p></p><p>He is still in full manipulation mode. It is not up to you to pay his rent, find him a sober living home, pay for a sober living home, or call his girlfriend who doesn't want to talk to him.</p><p></p><p>If he truly wants to get sober he will be willing to follow the rules of the program. Until then he is not ready. Don't throw your money away.</p><p></p><p>If the relapse costs him the money he put into the new apartment, that is part of the cost of his addiction. Until he feels the pain, he has no reason to change. </p><p></p><p>You are doing well . . .let him figure this out.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 747005, member: 1967"] You said no and he found his wallet and paid the rent. Are you seeing the pattern that I am seeing? He is still in full manipulation mode. It is not up to you to pay his rent, find him a sober living home, pay for a sober living home, or call his girlfriend who doesn't want to talk to him. If he truly wants to get sober he will be willing to follow the rules of the program. Until then he is not ready. Don't throw your money away. If the relapse costs him the money he put into the new apartment, that is part of the cost of his addiction. Until he feels the pain, he has no reason to change. You are doing well . . .let him figure this out. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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