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<blockquote data-quote="Beta" data-source="post: 740777" data-attributes="member: 22597"><p>Wow. I read with sadness the accounts of experiences with police and public defenders. I'm so sorry for all who have experienced indifference and callousness and cruelty from police and the legal system. We ourselves have had just a little experience with the legal system when J was arrested last November for assaulting his roommate. Fortunately, his PD was intuitive enough to understand that there was mental illness going on and was sympathetic. She was finally able to get his charge reduced to "harrassment" and he served 3 months on house arrest. I did ask her if there was any way the court could require a mental health evaluation of him, and I think she was open to that, but we don't know if that was ever done because she finally told me that I would have to talk to J to get any information, and of course, he wasn't going to tell us anything. I do agree that there are many caring, professional police officers and those who have received some training in dealing with individuals with mental illness, but I also agree that many more are untrained and indifferent and will just throw someone into jail to resolve a situation. So contacting the police has to be something done after careful thought. </p><p>I made repeated attempts yesterday to connect with J and convince him to leave Denver and come here to us. He refused and became increasingly verbally assaultive, with one manic text after another. He did the same to my husband. My husband asked me to please just disengage from him for now and just wait to see what happens. We've done everything we know to do. I know that he's right, and I agreed. I feel like I'm moving toward acceptance of our loss of him, but it's not a steady, linear progression forward. It's more like "one step forward, two steps back." And again, the nights are hard. I too often awaken during the night and have a hard time getting back to sleep. I feel like I've aged five years in the last year, and I don't want to one day look back and regret the time I spent worrying and agonizing and setting us back financially, trying to help someone who hates us and doesn't want anything to do with us. So that's where I am this morning. I will be returning here often to read posts and to gain the resolve I need to stay firm. </p><p>I appreciate each and every one of you. Please know that your pain and suffering is not wasted, because I and others on this forum benefit from what you have and are going through. God's blessings to each of you as we walk this hard path together.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Beta, post: 740777, member: 22597"] Wow. I read with sadness the accounts of experiences with police and public defenders. I'm so sorry for all who have experienced indifference and callousness and cruelty from police and the legal system. We ourselves have had just a little experience with the legal system when J was arrested last November for assaulting his roommate. Fortunately, his PD was intuitive enough to understand that there was mental illness going on and was sympathetic. She was finally able to get his charge reduced to "harrassment" and he served 3 months on house arrest. I did ask her if there was any way the court could require a mental health evaluation of him, and I think she was open to that, but we don't know if that was ever done because she finally told me that I would have to talk to J to get any information, and of course, he wasn't going to tell us anything. I do agree that there are many caring, professional police officers and those who have received some training in dealing with individuals with mental illness, but I also agree that many more are untrained and indifferent and will just throw someone into jail to resolve a situation. So contacting the police has to be something done after careful thought. I made repeated attempts yesterday to connect with J and convince him to leave Denver and come here to us. He refused and became increasingly verbally assaultive, with one manic text after another. He did the same to my husband. My husband asked me to please just disengage from him for now and just wait to see what happens. We've done everything we know to do. I know that he's right, and I agreed. I feel like I'm moving toward acceptance of our loss of him, but it's not a steady, linear progression forward. It's more like "one step forward, two steps back." And again, the nights are hard. I too often awaken during the night and have a hard time getting back to sleep. I feel like I've aged five years in the last year, and I don't want to one day look back and regret the time I spent worrying and agonizing and setting us back financially, trying to help someone who hates us and doesn't want anything to do with us. So that's where I am this morning. I will be returning here often to read posts and to gain the resolve I need to stay firm. I appreciate each and every one of you. Please know that your pain and suffering is not wasted, because I and others on this forum benefit from what you have and are going through. God's blessings to each of you as we walk this hard path together. [/QUOTE]
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