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<blockquote data-quote="Beta" data-source="post: 751344" data-attributes="member: 22597"><p>I was planning on going to my sister's house next weekend. As I was talking to my husband last night, I received some text messages from Josh, from his "burner phone" that had not been blocked. He threatened to cause trouble if I come. I am postponing my trip, tenatively until the first weekend in October. I don't want to be in a dangerous situation, but more importantly, I don't want to put my sister and brother-in-law in a dangerous situation. I'm hoping that I can go later and go without his knowing that I'm even there, but we will see what happens. I have cautioned my sister to be very careful. She is very aware and understanding of that, but it still worries me. I reiterated to her last night to do whatever they need to do to be safe. I feel like I have dropped this "bomb" in their laps, and I really regret it. I honestly thought that if the stress of his living situation, the poor eating habits, etc. were relieved, and if he were around people who cared about him, that he might stabilize just enough to function, but I was wrong. Without treatment and therapy, he is not going to get better. I fully anticipate that he will end up in jail or prison at some point. When you can't work, you have to find some way of surviving and that usually means doing something illegal. </p><p></p><p>I have finally come to the realization that there is no changing Josh. Nothing I say or do is going to change him because he does not want to change. He blames us completely for his situation and insists that we "need to make it right" by giving him money, which of course, is ridiculous. He also has no interest in having a relationship with us, with them or anybody else. She told me she has definitely observed a manic/depressive cycling in him, which helps to further strengthen our belief that he is Bipolar. </p><p></p><p>I love him. I despise the person he has become though. The mental illness and drugs are definitely a cause, but I also believe that, even with those things, he has chosen to act in the evil way he has.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Beta, post: 751344, member: 22597"] I was planning on going to my sister's house next weekend. As I was talking to my husband last night, I received some text messages from Josh, from his "burner phone" that had not been blocked. He threatened to cause trouble if I come. I am postponing my trip, tenatively until the first weekend in October. I don't want to be in a dangerous situation, but more importantly, I don't want to put my sister and brother-in-law in a dangerous situation. I'm hoping that I can go later and go without his knowing that I'm even there, but we will see what happens. I have cautioned my sister to be very careful. She is very aware and understanding of that, but it still worries me. I reiterated to her last night to do whatever they need to do to be safe. I feel like I have dropped this "bomb" in their laps, and I really regret it. I honestly thought that if the stress of his living situation, the poor eating habits, etc. were relieved, and if he were around people who cared about him, that he might stabilize just enough to function, but I was wrong. Without treatment and therapy, he is not going to get better. I fully anticipate that he will end up in jail or prison at some point. When you can't work, you have to find some way of surviving and that usually means doing something illegal. I have finally come to the realization that there is no changing Josh. Nothing I say or do is going to change him because he does not want to change. He blames us completely for his situation and insists that we "need to make it right" by giving him money, which of course, is ridiculous. He also has no interest in having a relationship with us, with them or anybody else. She told me she has definitely observed a manic/depressive cycling in him, which helps to further strengthen our belief that he is Bipolar. I love him. I despise the person he has become though. The mental illness and drugs are definitely a cause, but I also believe that, even with those things, he has chosen to act in the evil way he has. [/QUOTE]
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