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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 751492" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Beta,</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry things are turning out this way. I'm sure there was a level of comfort knowing he had a roof over his head and someone you know keeping an eye on things.</p><p></p><p>It is troubling how they don't take advantage of the opportunities given to them. This has happened with my sons too. For instance, the place where younger son always parked overnight while he slept in his car was a church parking lot. The people from the church allowed him to park there, knowing his situation and did at one point try to take him under their wing but he wanted no party of "that nonesense". But at one point the pastor put him in a hotel for 6 weeks right thru Christmas. What a blessing. I felt for me as much as him. Do you think he did anything during that time to use it as a catalyst to improve his situation? No...he sadly did not. Instead he then tried to say something was shady with the pastor because why would he use his money to do this? Instead of being grateful and thankful he tried to tried to find fault with their generosity.</p><p></p><p>Same thing with older son. Some woman at one of the places he was training at for a position (which of course never panned out) allowed him through Christmastime to stay 8 weeks at her apartment. He as well did nothing to improve his situation during those eight weeks. Never ended up with the job he was training for and never found another job so he could start helping with rent and potential stay there longer. Instead, he griped about how "crazy" she was and her demands on him to do things around the apartment etc.</p><p></p><p>I feel like it's no different from when they lived at home prior to being "ousted". They never realized the opportunity they had to get on their feet with all the assistance in the world from us.</p><p></p><p>So, I agree this seems to be a common trait..sadly enough.</p><p></p><p>Let's hope that your son is working on a good plan. We can only hope and pray.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 751492, member: 23405"] Beta, I'm sorry things are turning out this way. I'm sure there was a level of comfort knowing he had a roof over his head and someone you know keeping an eye on things. It is troubling how they don't take advantage of the opportunities given to them. This has happened with my sons too. For instance, the place where younger son always parked overnight while he slept in his car was a church parking lot. The people from the church allowed him to park there, knowing his situation and did at one point try to take him under their wing but he wanted no party of "that nonesense". But at one point the pastor put him in a hotel for 6 weeks right thru Christmas. What a blessing. I felt for me as much as him. Do you think he did anything during that time to use it as a catalyst to improve his situation? No...he sadly did not. Instead he then tried to say something was shady with the pastor because why would he use his money to do this? Instead of being grateful and thankful he tried to tried to find fault with their generosity. Same thing with older son. Some woman at one of the places he was training at for a position (which of course never panned out) allowed him through Christmastime to stay 8 weeks at her apartment. He as well did nothing to improve his situation during those eight weeks. Never ended up with the job he was training for and never found another job so he could start helping with rent and potential stay there longer. Instead, he griped about how "crazy" she was and her demands on him to do things around the apartment etc. I feel like it's no different from when they lived at home prior to being "ousted". They never realized the opportunity they had to get on their feet with all the assistance in the world from us. So, I agree this seems to be a common trait..sadly enough. Let's hope that your son is working on a good plan. We can only hope and pray. [/QUOTE]
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