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Remember Those Behavior Goals I Was Supposed to Write...?
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 423065" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Counter-offer time! The goal as stated is too far to reach (I'm going to agree with the caseworker here) - so rather than measuring days with "no" violence... try ratchetting down the violence - first goal: can't draw blood, break bones, or damage sight/hearing... as in, the "big stuff". In other words, difficult child has to slow down just enough to MEASURE the violence. Its takes both self-awareness and self-control.</p><p> </p><p>If you can get THAT far, the rest of the goal becomes reachable (in steps) until you get down to verbal.</p><p> </p><p>We spent too long trying to cross the chasm in leaps, and dealing with continual crashes. Instead, you have to build bridges so they can cross one step at a time.</p><p> </p><p>One more hint - no more than THREE goals. Really. They can't deal with more than that at a time. THREE of anything in the goals/rules/controls catagory. When one gets reached, it becomes an "expectation" (intermittent rewards), and a new goal gets added.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 423065, member: 11791"] Counter-offer time! The goal as stated is too far to reach (I'm going to agree with the caseworker here) - so rather than measuring days with "no" violence... try ratchetting down the violence - first goal: can't draw blood, break bones, or damage sight/hearing... as in, the "big stuff". In other words, difficult child has to slow down just enough to MEASURE the violence. Its takes both self-awareness and self-control. If you can get THAT far, the rest of the goal becomes reachable (in steps) until you get down to verbal. We spent too long trying to cross the chasm in leaps, and dealing with continual crashes. Instead, you have to build bridges so they can cross one step at a time. One more hint - no more than THREE goals. Really. They can't deal with more than that at a time. THREE of anything in the goals/rules/controls catagory. When one gets reached, it becomes an "expectation" (intermittent rewards), and a new goal gets added. [/QUOTE]
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