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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 758053" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Dear RN (I don't mean to hijack Bruce. Maybe some of this applies to your situation, too.)</p><p></p><p>Thank you very much. I feel great change. However the challenges are here too. My son keeps making some of the same mistakes, and his way of escaping the consequences is to seek to return here.</p><p></p><p>He triggers me. Not just the marijuana or the dirtiness but his dominance and unwillingness or inability to permit another person to have autonomy of ideas or needs.</p><p></p><p>When my son triggers me I begin to feel that the defect is in me. And that begins a downward spiral. It's hard to hold onto myself. And M is still in the picture. *Yet again, M would want me to let my son come back, think. I dread it. I have no hope that any (more) support from me will in any way alter the picture for my son. </p><p></p><p>He has shown that he is able to find supportive living situations like sober living, if he chooses. Although he antagonizes house managers by refusing to adhere to reasonable rules. This last time he refused to accede to reasonable rules about the pandemic because he refuses to acknowledge it is real and believes that everybody should think and behave as does he. How does anybody get along with somebody who won't give an inch?</p><p></p><p>It is still very hard for me to think of him (let alone deal with the reality) on the street, abused by others, with nowhere to go.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 758053, member: 18958"] Dear RN (I don't mean to hijack Bruce. Maybe some of this applies to your situation, too.) Thank you very much. I feel great change. However the challenges are here too. My son keeps making some of the same mistakes, and his way of escaping the consequences is to seek to return here. He triggers me. Not just the marijuana or the dirtiness but his dominance and unwillingness or inability to permit another person to have autonomy of ideas or needs. When my son triggers me I begin to feel that the defect is in me. And that begins a downward spiral. It's hard to hold onto myself. And M is still in the picture. *Yet again, M would want me to let my son come back, think. I dread it. I have no hope that any (more) support from me will in any way alter the picture for my son. He has shown that he is able to find supportive living situations like sober living, if he chooses. Although he antagonizes house managers by refusing to adhere to reasonable rules. This last time he refused to accede to reasonable rules about the pandemic because he refuses to acknowledge it is real and believes that everybody should think and behave as does he. How does anybody get along with somebody who won't give an inch? It is still very hard for me to think of him (let alone deal with the reality) on the street, abused by others, with nowhere to go. [/QUOTE]
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