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She's almost 18 - surrendered to CYS
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<blockquote data-quote="Rattled" data-source="post: 707993" data-attributes="member: 21454"><p>The CYS case on my oldest daughter is for "dependency". The box is checked that the parents do not have control over her actions to keep her safe. I agree with this. She doesn't listen to either of us. Lies constantly. Is generally horrible to be around. She's my daughter, I love her, I just don't like her. Her after high school goal is to move to NY and join a hippy commune she read about online. </p><p></p><p>The other two kids are happy she is out of the house. They are happy at home. They are aged 16 and 12. But I got a stack of paper in the mail from CYS on Saturday stating under the permanency goal check boxes "X Child remains in home. Child in at imminent risk of removal from his/her home."</p><p></p><p>For the oldest that is in foster care, the box is checked that she is in foster care with the goal of her returning home. I don't want her home. She turns 18 in 2 months. </p><p></p><p>I'm just worried about losing the other two and them forcing the oldest back into the home as a contingency for keeping the other two. </p><p></p><p>We lock bedroom doors at night when she's here. Everyone walks on eggshells around her. </p><p></p><p>The worst CYS has on us is that she had 5 cavities at time of placement. We didn't have dental insurance and she refused to brush her teeth. </p><p></p><p>I know CYS varies state to state and county to county, but I've been reading online about my county. I don't live in a good one.</p><p></p><p>I don't want my other two stuck in the system for the remainder of their years because my oldest has issues. </p><p></p><p>One day CYS was out here because that morning the oldest had punched the middle daughter in the face on the way to the school bus. The oldest, the one that threw the punch, called CYS and told them she was afraid to come home from school because she was going to be made to "do hard labor." I told her the night before that everyone is going to help stack the firewood for the fireplace after school so don't make plans. I have the unfounded letter from that one too. </p><p></p><p>I'm just at a loss and need some help. My calls into the CYS office are typically ignored, I maybe get a call back a few days later. My oldest won't talk to me and told CYS she doesn't want visitation with me and her father. </p><p></p><p>And she constantly texts her younger sister bragging on how she gets to go to college for free now. The foster family isn't allowed by law to keep her on her toes. Her siblings report she is going to school with no bra and wearing crop tops that show the bottom of her breasts. So she got everything she wants- no accountability and free money. All she has to do is continue to lie to them.</p><p></p><p>I'm beyond frustrated. </p><p></p><p>Sorry for the novel- I just need to vent.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Rattled, post: 707993, member: 21454"] The CYS case on my oldest daughter is for "dependency". The box is checked that the parents do not have control over her actions to keep her safe. I agree with this. She doesn't listen to either of us. Lies constantly. Is generally horrible to be around. She's my daughter, I love her, I just don't like her. Her after high school goal is to move to NY and join a hippy commune she read about online. The other two kids are happy she is out of the house. They are happy at home. They are aged 16 and 12. But I got a stack of paper in the mail from CYS on Saturday stating under the permanency goal check boxes "X Child remains in home. Child in at imminent risk of removal from his/her home." For the oldest that is in foster care, the box is checked that she is in foster care with the goal of her returning home. I don't want her home. She turns 18 in 2 months. I'm just worried about losing the other two and them forcing the oldest back into the home as a contingency for keeping the other two. We lock bedroom doors at night when she's here. Everyone walks on eggshells around her. The worst CYS has on us is that she had 5 cavities at time of placement. We didn't have dental insurance and she refused to brush her teeth. I know CYS varies state to state and county to county, but I've been reading online about my county. I don't live in a good one. I don't want my other two stuck in the system for the remainder of their years because my oldest has issues. One day CYS was out here because that morning the oldest had punched the middle daughter in the face on the way to the school bus. The oldest, the one that threw the punch, called CYS and told them she was afraid to come home from school because she was going to be made to "do hard labor." I told her the night before that everyone is going to help stack the firewood for the fireplace after school so don't make plans. I have the unfounded letter from that one too. I'm just at a loss and need some help. My calls into the CYS office are typically ignored, I maybe get a call back a few days later. My oldest won't talk to me and told CYS she doesn't want visitation with me and her father. And she constantly texts her younger sister bragging on how she gets to go to college for free now. The foster family isn't allowed by law to keep her on her toes. Her siblings report she is going to school with no bra and wearing crop tops that show the bottom of her breasts. So she got everything she wants- no accountability and free money. All she has to do is continue to lie to them. I'm beyond frustrated. Sorry for the novel- I just need to vent. [/QUOTE]
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