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She's almost 18 - surrendered to CYS
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<blockquote data-quote="Rattled" data-source="post: 708030" data-attributes="member: 21454"><p>With her grades I doubt she is going to graduate high school this year which may mean this drags out for another year. I would imagine her IQ test would yield incredibly high results but she doesn't try. </p><p></p><p>We aren't rich by any means, but lower middle income. She wants to go to an out of state small private college with a $80,000/year tuition. I told her that's crazy because the job she wants in the end only pays $35,000/year. Stay in state and go to a local college. But I told her she had to have an after high school plan so she is "punishing me" by picking an extreme college. I burst her bubble when I told her college tuition is 100% on the student so she insisted that I take out a parent loan to cover her college expenses. I said no. Big surprise. That was a day or two before she punched her sister. </p><p></p><p>Since she has been gone the house has been so peaceful and calm. We all play board games a few times a week and laugh. We are planning a camping trip this summer. We haven't been able to go camping since the oldest didn't want to go, she wanted to stay home alone. So we told her she could stay behind but she had to stay at grandma's. She would start breaking plates, screaming, terrorizing the whole family. After a few tries we gave up. We get to go on vacation again. </p><p></p><p>I'm her mom. I love the kid. I just can't stand her.</p><p></p><p>I used to drag her from her room, down the steps, into the car. Then drop her siblings off with a baby sitter, pay $150 out of pocket for a 1 hour therapy session, only to hear at the end of them "she didn't say a word the whole time." </p><p></p><p>The other two kids are great. Just the normal issues that you see on sitcoms. But the oldest... when she hit puberty it was like a switch got flipped in her head. </p><p></p><p>I would wake in the morning with dread- not knowing how the morning was going to go. Would she flip out, would she go, would she scream. Then anytime she wasn't in my sight I would be filled with panic every time the phone rang with "what did she do now?"</p><p></p><p>When CYS showed up the first time it was just another "what did she do now?" </p><p></p><p>I did what I could for her. I raised her as I did the other two. The other two are good kids. It's just her that I don't understand.</p><p></p><p>The only break in her behavior was when I was diagnosed with cancer. For a few months she was my little girl again. That wore off too quickly though.</p><p></p><p>It's really nice to be able to breathe. I no longer feel the knots in my stomach when it's time to wake the kids up for school. I don't want her back.</p><p></p><p>I will play along with CYS to protect the other two.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Rattled, post: 708030, member: 21454"] With her grades I doubt she is going to graduate high school this year which may mean this drags out for another year. I would imagine her IQ test would yield incredibly high results but she doesn't try. We aren't rich by any means, but lower middle income. She wants to go to an out of state small private college with a $80,000/year tuition. I told her that's crazy because the job she wants in the end only pays $35,000/year. Stay in state and go to a local college. But I told her she had to have an after high school plan so she is "punishing me" by picking an extreme college. I burst her bubble when I told her college tuition is 100% on the student so she insisted that I take out a parent loan to cover her college expenses. I said no. Big surprise. That was a day or two before she punched her sister. Since she has been gone the house has been so peaceful and calm. We all play board games a few times a week and laugh. We are planning a camping trip this summer. We haven't been able to go camping since the oldest didn't want to go, she wanted to stay home alone. So we told her she could stay behind but she had to stay at grandma's. She would start breaking plates, screaming, terrorizing the whole family. After a few tries we gave up. We get to go on vacation again. I'm her mom. I love the kid. I just can't stand her. I used to drag her from her room, down the steps, into the car. Then drop her siblings off with a baby sitter, pay $150 out of pocket for a 1 hour therapy session, only to hear at the end of them "she didn't say a word the whole time." The other two kids are great. Just the normal issues that you see on sitcoms. But the oldest... when she hit puberty it was like a switch got flipped in her head. I would wake in the morning with dread- not knowing how the morning was going to go. Would she flip out, would she go, would she scream. Then anytime she wasn't in my sight I would be filled with panic every time the phone rang with "what did she do now?" When CYS showed up the first time it was just another "what did she do now?" I did what I could for her. I raised her as I did the other two. The other two are good kids. It's just her that I don't understand. The only break in her behavior was when I was diagnosed with cancer. For a few months she was my little girl again. That wore off too quickly though. It's really nice to be able to breathe. I no longer feel the knots in my stomach when it's time to wake the kids up for school. I don't want her back. I will play along with CYS to protect the other two. [/QUOTE]
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