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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 743651" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thats an expensive Christmas gift which his pattern has been to ruin.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes I think even if they want rehab we need to count our own pennies and their actual motivation for wanting to go and it is okay to turn them down. If your son was in rehab just now but chose to drink because he was upset over a girl, he isnt ready to do the work it takes to be sober.</p><p></p><p>If it were me, I would not respond with money to an intoxicated phone call. He would need to rinse/repeat while sober. And money doesnt just get sent away. He knows what he spent it on....booze or drugs or both. I would pin him down on.that. its a lie. He didnt just throw it in the wind. He gave it to somebody. For something.</p><p></p><p>If you know what you are paying for and still wamt to pay for him then nobody here will tell you not to. Its something we sometimes do for us. Dont kid yourself though that it is for him. It wont help him. It helps us and thats ok if we can afford it.</p><p></p><p>For your own Christmas present why not focus on yourself and start to take care of YOU first?</p><p></p><p>Love and light!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 743651, member: 1550"] Thats an expensive Christmas gift which his pattern has been to ruin. Sometimes I think even if they want rehab we need to count our own pennies and their actual motivation for wanting to go and it is okay to turn them down. If your son was in rehab just now but chose to drink because he was upset over a girl, he isnt ready to do the work it takes to be sober. If it were me, I would not respond with money to an intoxicated phone call. He would need to rinse/repeat while sober. And money doesnt just get sent away. He knows what he spent it on....booze or drugs or both. I would pin him down on.that. its a lie. He didnt just throw it in the wind. He gave it to somebody. For something. If you know what you are paying for and still wamt to pay for him then nobody here will tell you not to. Its something we sometimes do for us. Dont kid yourself though that it is for him. It wont help him. It helps us and thats ok if we can afford it. For your own Christmas present why not focus on yourself and start to take care of YOU first? Love and light! [/QUOTE]
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