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<blockquote data-quote="Crayola13" data-source="post: 744024" data-attributes="member: 21066"><p>I'm thankful he got back into rehab, but at the same time, I think twelve step pricrams have a high failure rate. Life coaches are great if the person is willing to set goals and follow their advise, but $100 an hour seems high. I've known people who charge half. I don't know what part of the country he lives, so I guess the fees are different in other states.</p><p></p><p>It's troubling that his rent is more than your mortgage. You mentioned in previous posts that he really likes his job, which is great. I think I recall you saying he didn't want to move because his apartment was close to his job. I definitely think he needs to move, but now isn't the time to change jobs because he might hate the new job and spiral down even further. If he's going to be alone in his apartment after work, it will be more tempting to drink. He needs to find something to do after work and not be alone or near alcohol. You can easily get trapped in your head when you're alone and have nothing to do. The rehab probably already told him that volunteer work helps take your mind off some of your problems. With winter coming, the homeless shelter will be needing extra volunteers. It might scare him enough when he sees how addiction can cause homelessness and chronic disease. </p><p></p><p>As you know, my adopted son was born addicted to cocaine, which means he has a genetic predisposition to addiction. I wanted him to volunteer at the homeless shelter for sevrrse reasons. One of those reasons was so he could see the risk in using drugs or drinking. He will never be able to drink, not even an occasional beer. I also wanted him to see that all people are to be treated with dignity and compassion. The third reason was because being busy takes his mind off of his severe anxiety disorder. He learned a lot by volunteering at the shelter, but because of his age, they said he couldn't come back. So, now he volunteers at the animal shelter, which, of course, has made our house turn into a zoo! It's good to have empathy for all living creatures.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Crayola13, post: 744024, member: 21066"] I'm thankful he got back into rehab, but at the same time, I think twelve step pricrams have a high failure rate. Life coaches are great if the person is willing to set goals and follow their advise, but $100 an hour seems high. I've known people who charge half. I don't know what part of the country he lives, so I guess the fees are different in other states. It's troubling that his rent is more than your mortgage. You mentioned in previous posts that he really likes his job, which is great. I think I recall you saying he didn't want to move because his apartment was close to his job. I definitely think he needs to move, but now isn't the time to change jobs because he might hate the new job and spiral down even further. If he's going to be alone in his apartment after work, it will be more tempting to drink. He needs to find something to do after work and not be alone or near alcohol. You can easily get trapped in your head when you're alone and have nothing to do. The rehab probably already told him that volunteer work helps take your mind off some of your problems. With winter coming, the homeless shelter will be needing extra volunteers. It might scare him enough when he sees how addiction can cause homelessness and chronic disease. As you know, my adopted son was born addicted to cocaine, which means he has a genetic predisposition to addiction. I wanted him to volunteer at the homeless shelter for sevrrse reasons. One of those reasons was so he could see the risk in using drugs or drinking. He will never be able to drink, not even an occasional beer. I also wanted him to see that all people are to be treated with dignity and compassion. The third reason was because being busy takes his mind off of his severe anxiety disorder. He learned a lot by volunteering at the shelter, but because of his age, they said he couldn't come back. So, now he volunteers at the animal shelter, which, of course, has made our house turn into a zoo! It's good to have empathy for all living creatures. [/QUOTE]
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