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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 723535" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Oh LBL, I am so, so sorry. </p><p></p><p>I know that deep, profound betrayal you feel, the raw grief and anger.....there is nothing that compares to the insult to our hearts when our own children cunningly, with premeditation do harm to us.</p><p></p><p>As everyone has said, he is now suffering the consequences of his choices. And, so are you and your husband. I know about that shame you mentioned. When my daughter was arrested the first time, it was in the local paper which folks felt compelled to bring to my office at work to show me. That shame you speak of spread like wildfire thru me. Often, on some level, we parents believe that the actions of our kids are a reflection of not only our parenting, but of our values and beliefs...<em>of who WE are.</em> They are not. They are separate entities from us. As you move thru this devastating time, you'll be able to let that part go.</p><p></p><p>It takes time to get thru this level of betrayal.......but we do......you will.....we will circle every wagon we have here around you, we're here for you.....you're not alone. Hold on to that....you're part of this tribe of warriors.......our hearts may be battered and wounded, but they are stronger and more solid too....we stand with you.....every one of us......<em>You are not alone LBL.... </em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 723535, member: 13542"] Oh LBL, I am so, so sorry. I know that deep, profound betrayal you feel, the raw grief and anger.....there is nothing that compares to the insult to our hearts when our own children cunningly, with premeditation do harm to us. As everyone has said, he is now suffering the consequences of his choices. And, so are you and your husband. I know about that shame you mentioned. When my daughter was arrested the first time, it was in the local paper which folks felt compelled to bring to my office at work to show me. That shame you speak of spread like wildfire thru me. Often, on some level, we parents believe that the actions of our kids are a reflection of not only our parenting, but of our values and beliefs...[I]of who WE are.[/I] They are not. They are separate entities from us. As you move thru this devastating time, you'll be able to let that part go. It takes time to get thru this level of betrayal.......but we do......you will.....we will circle every wagon we have here around you, we're here for you.....you're not alone. Hold on to that....you're part of this tribe of warriors.......our hearts may be battered and wounded, but they are stronger and more solid too....we stand with you.....every one of us......[I]You are not alone LBL.... [/I] [/QUOTE]
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