Hi, I haven't posted in a week or so. I'm doing pretty well with detaching.
Let's see...
difficult child is living with abusive boyfriend again. They are at his mother's house. Their apartment has apparently been sitting vacant because they couldn't afford to pay the electric bill. I believe they're in the process of being evicted, too.
She asked if we could keep her dog for a week or two since boyfriend's mom doesn't like dogs much. husband and I agreed. Maybe a little enabling, but we love the dog and enjoy having her around.
She lost her job, but supposedly starts a new one on Thursday. Better hours (12-9 as opposed to 3-midnight, and no weekends), but $2/ hour less pay. She will be a bill collector (she'll probably have to call herself.)
Her car has been wrecked---front end is all torn up, but driveable. The story is that someone backed into her in a parking lot. She said they had insurance and would be covering repairs. Later, the story changed...she's just gonna let the car fall apart. Whatever.
She came by on Saturday to visit the dog. While here, she said that she and boyfriend (who I think will continue to abuse her) were moving into a townhouse with rent about $200/month cheaper than their old place. I guess my thoughts were pretty transparent, because she said, "Why are you making such a face?" I just said that I didn't think much of her moving in with boyfriend, but it was her life.
difficult child tried to leave wearing one of easy child's outfits (easy child was at work). I asked whose jeans and sweater those were just before she walked out the door. She didn't answer, so I repeated my question. She responded that they were easy child's. I told her to take them off and go put on her own clothes. difficult child did comply, but added, "easy child needs to <u>grow up</u>!" ????????
Yesterday, she called husband and asked if he would help her move into the townhouse. He was trying to see what his business has scheduled so he could use a company truck for the furniture.
When husband got off the phone, I asked him to please think about whether or not he should help her...I told him it was completely up to him, but I did feel that it would be enabling. If she wants it so badly, she can wait til she has enough money for a U-haul and figure out the moving details herself. I told husband that if he didn't want to confront difficult child, he could just say that the truck is not available, and he isn't either due to his weak back (he did injure it about 10 days ago). Anyway, I'm trying not to force my opinion on husband, but I do hope he will decide not to make it easy for her to move in with someone who is not good for her.
He does agree that we won't be giving them one more cent, but I don't think he really thought about giving our time and effort to enable them.
Sorry this is so long...just need to vent.
Let's see...
difficult child is living with abusive boyfriend again. They are at his mother's house. Their apartment has apparently been sitting vacant because they couldn't afford to pay the electric bill. I believe they're in the process of being evicted, too.
She asked if we could keep her dog for a week or two since boyfriend's mom doesn't like dogs much. husband and I agreed. Maybe a little enabling, but we love the dog and enjoy having her around.
She lost her job, but supposedly starts a new one on Thursday. Better hours (12-9 as opposed to 3-midnight, and no weekends), but $2/ hour less pay. She will be a bill collector (she'll probably have to call herself.)
Her car has been wrecked---front end is all torn up, but driveable. The story is that someone backed into her in a parking lot. She said they had insurance and would be covering repairs. Later, the story changed...she's just gonna let the car fall apart. Whatever.
She came by on Saturday to visit the dog. While here, she said that she and boyfriend (who I think will continue to abuse her) were moving into a townhouse with rent about $200/month cheaper than their old place. I guess my thoughts were pretty transparent, because she said, "Why are you making such a face?" I just said that I didn't think much of her moving in with boyfriend, but it was her life.
difficult child tried to leave wearing one of easy child's outfits (easy child was at work). I asked whose jeans and sweater those were just before she walked out the door. She didn't answer, so I repeated my question. She responded that they were easy child's. I told her to take them off and go put on her own clothes. difficult child did comply, but added, "easy child needs to <u>grow up</u>!" ????????
Yesterday, she called husband and asked if he would help her move into the townhouse. He was trying to see what his business has scheduled so he could use a company truck for the furniture.
When husband got off the phone, I asked him to please think about whether or not he should help her...I told him it was completely up to him, but I did feel that it would be enabling. If she wants it so badly, she can wait til she has enough money for a U-haul and figure out the moving details herself. I told husband that if he didn't want to confront difficult child, he could just say that the truck is not available, and he isn't either due to his weak back (he did injure it about 10 days ago). Anyway, I'm trying not to force my opinion on husband, but I do hope he will decide not to make it easy for her to move in with someone who is not good for her.
He does agree that we won't be giving them one more cent, but I don't think he really thought about giving our time and effort to enable them.
Sorry this is so long...just need to vent.
