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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 754301" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>This is it in a nutshell.I hope that you don't ever again subject yourself to this treatment. I am so very sad that he did this to you.</p><p>Beta. This I fear. You love him. You don't want him to suffer. And you surely do not want him to feel truly alone. I don't think you can tolerate inflicting this on him. You're working against your very nature here. It's not realistic. You will suffer with this.</p><p></p><p>I'm not saying to have contact. That you can't do. It's tearing you apart and it's not good for him. What I'm saying here is to tell yourself you want him to feel what it is to be all alone without family, is to fool yourself and to set yourself up. Because it's not true Beta. I don't believe you could ever sustain such a feeling. Right now you're very hurt and angry. This will soon pass. But that does not mean you should put yourself in a position for him to again do this.</p><p></p><p>I agree with the silence. Yes. For two reasons. One, he has told you in every which way he can't bear contact, without falling apart and treating you with unthinkable cruelty. Two, because he is treating you with unthinkable cruelty. You can't anymore allow that. It's happened too many times to risk it again without some clear and sustained evidence that he won't do it.</p><p>I know that it feels this way. But I don't believe he treats you this way because you are nothing to him. I believe this behavior on his part is motivated by something else.</p><p></p><p>Why inflict pain on yourself? You don't know what will come in the future. You have no way of knowing his true feelings about you. Is it not enough to accept that he is treating you badly and that that can't be allowed?</p><p></p><p> I recognize that you may be trying to harden your heart, to survive this, but face it Beta: <em>You have a soft and kind heart. It won't work</em>. I think the idea about the Townsend and Cloud Boundaries Book is great. I have it here. We can read it together.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 754301, member: 18958"] This is it in a nutshell.I hope that you don't ever again subject yourself to this treatment. I am so very sad that he did this to you. Beta. This I fear. You love him. You don't want him to suffer. And you surely do not want him to feel truly alone. I don't think you can tolerate inflicting this on him. You're working against your very nature here. It's not realistic. You will suffer with this. I'm not saying to have contact. That you can't do. It's tearing you apart and it's not good for him. What I'm saying here is to tell yourself you want him to feel what it is to be all alone without family, is to fool yourself and to set yourself up. Because it's not true Beta. I don't believe you could ever sustain such a feeling. Right now you're very hurt and angry. This will soon pass. But that does not mean you should put yourself in a position for him to again do this. I agree with the silence. Yes. For two reasons. One, he has told you in every which way he can't bear contact, without falling apart and treating you with unthinkable cruelty. Two, because he is treating you with unthinkable cruelty. You can't anymore allow that. It's happened too many times to risk it again without some clear and sustained evidence that he won't do it. I know that it feels this way. But I don't believe he treats you this way because you are nothing to him. I believe this behavior on his part is motivated by something else. Why inflict pain on yourself? You don't know what will come in the future. You have no way of knowing his true feelings about you. Is it not enough to accept that he is treating you badly and that that can't be allowed? I recognize that you may be trying to harden your heart, to survive this, but face it Beta: [I]You have a soft and kind heart. It won't work[/I]. I think the idea about the Townsend and Cloud Boundaries Book is great. I have it here. We can read it together. [/QUOTE]
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