I've been reading many of the posts here lately. I don't always respond, but I want you each to know how much I appreciate your wisdom and caring for me and toward one another. And my prayers are with you. On Thanksgiving eve, my husband and I were driving to where our youngest son lives to spend Thanksgiving Day with him. On the way, my husband checked his spam folder for his text messages and Josh was texting, asking for food money. Anyway, I called him and he said he had paid the rent on his room but needed money for food. We told him that we would stop at the next Walmart and wire him money. We did so, sending $100. We just couldn't stand the thought of his going hungry. While away, I also ordered a couple of clothing items to help keep him warm, using the Walmart site to store thing. The items came in last weekend, and I noticed that they had been picked up. I was glad, thinking how much he would appreciate having a couple of warm things. Next thing I know, I'm getting FB messages from him, saying things like, "You stupid , you got the wrong size." "You're a stupid bi**h." "I hate you." "I wish I could choke you right now." "You're selfish and stingy." "You've never done anything for me." I was pretty shaken up when I read those, and I realized that once again I walked right into it. Trying to "rescue" and ending up kicked in the face, and this time, I could really tell it had affected me in a bad way. So....I've made a decision not to try to contact him for awhile, not even on Christmas Day or on his 30th birthday, which is January 8. I'm just going to be silent and let him feel what it is to be truly alone, without his family. He does not care about us; we are nothing to him, other than a source of money or help with material things. It will be hard, and I will have moments when I will waver, but if I recall those messages, it will help me to stay firm.