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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 736906" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Leafy, I am sorry you're walking through this with your daughter. It's so hard on our mother's hearts to be on the sidelines watching this horror movie starring our adult kids........</p><p></p><p>My daughter was arrested for possession of stolen goods. It was her first offense as well. She maintained she wasn't aware the goods were stolen. If the stolen item is under a certain amount (often $500 or $1000) it's a misdemeanor, larger than a certain amount I believe it then becomes a felony. I made the same choice you have and it wasn't easy. No one bailed her out and she stayed in jail until her court date which kept being postponed. </p><p></p><p>If this is your daughter's first offense, it's likely she'll be offered probation. It depends on how she pleads. My daughter was so freaked out about being in jail she took the stupidest deal admitting to the guilt just to get out of jail sooner.......had she stayed in jail and waited the charge would have been dropped and the whole thing would have been over. It was eventually dropped to a misdemeanor but that took a long time and a lot of court dates. She set herself up to be continually picked up on probation violations for a number of years until it was finally settled. She owes the courts quite a substantial amount of money which she pays off monthly now. It's been a long haul for her.</p><p></p><p>I never bailed my daughter out, however, I did write the judge at one point and that letter actually helped. Like you I had never been involved in any criminal legal proceedings and I was freaked out too. But, like everything in life, that too became "normal."</p><p></p><p>After getting over the initial "shock" of having my only child in jail, I began thinking like so many of us here do.....she is safe......she is eating......I know where she is now......sigh....</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry Leafy, I know the assault this takes on your whole system until you regain your balance.....your daughter will do whatever she will do......while she is dealing with this latest issue, take this time to be very kind and nourishing to yourself.....amp up your self care and support.....we'll do our best to support you, circling our wagons around you.....you're not alone.....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 736906, member: 13542"] Leafy, I am sorry you're walking through this with your daughter. It's so hard on our mother's hearts to be on the sidelines watching this horror movie starring our adult kids........ My daughter was arrested for possession of stolen goods. It was her first offense as well. She maintained she wasn't aware the goods were stolen. If the stolen item is under a certain amount (often $500 or $1000) it's a misdemeanor, larger than a certain amount I believe it then becomes a felony. I made the same choice you have and it wasn't easy. No one bailed her out and she stayed in jail until her court date which kept being postponed. If this is your daughter's first offense, it's likely she'll be offered probation. It depends on how she pleads. My daughter was so freaked out about being in jail she took the stupidest deal admitting to the guilt just to get out of jail sooner.......had she stayed in jail and waited the charge would have been dropped and the whole thing would have been over. It was eventually dropped to a misdemeanor but that took a long time and a lot of court dates. She set herself up to be continually picked up on probation violations for a number of years until it was finally settled. She owes the courts quite a substantial amount of money which she pays off monthly now. It's been a long haul for her. I never bailed my daughter out, however, I did write the judge at one point and that letter actually helped. Like you I had never been involved in any criminal legal proceedings and I was freaked out too. But, like everything in life, that too became "normal." After getting over the initial "shock" of having my only child in jail, I began thinking like so many of us here do.....she is safe......she is eating......I know where she is now......sigh.... I'm sorry Leafy, I know the assault this takes on your whole system until you regain your balance.....your daughter will do whatever she will do......while she is dealing with this latest issue, take this time to be very kind and nourishing to yourself.....amp up your self care and support.....we'll do our best to support you, circling our wagons around you.....you're not alone..... [/QUOTE]
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