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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 736915" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Leafy,</p><p></p><p>Oh no, not *THAT* call. I'm so sorry, Leafy.</p><p></p><p>I was thinking the same thing, that Tornado is most likely safer in jail than out.</p><p></p><p>I agree 100% with your decision not to bail her out. It wouldn't matter if it was $11,000.00 or $11.00.</p><p></p><p>My son's bail was $200. We would not pay it, nor would everyone else he could possibly think to call -- parents of old girlfriends, relatives who stopped speaking to him years ago, casual acquaintances, etc. No surprise there. </p><p></p><p>He was in jail for over a month before his public defender even met with him. I never imagined I would be the kind of parent who leaves her son in jail wondering if anyone is even going to come see him to discuss his case.</p><p></p><p>As his PD explained to us, they can check themselves out of rehab, but they can't check themselves out of jail. In his experience he was doing what was best for his client, because</p><p>(1) When they are using drugs like meth, they need to be seriously rocked back on their heels to get their attention.</p><p>(2) Clients need to have clear heads before making decisions, and a few days isn't enough time to clear their heads.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad we followed his advice, but it was obviously a very rough time for us. So I don't know the "right" thing to do, but just wanted to throw our experience out there. No matter how it plays out, I hope that in some way this ultimately leads to Tornado seeing her need for rehab and starting it with serious intent.</p><p></p><p>In the meantime, I'm so glad that you are reaching more of a steady state about the craziness of it all. We are all here to support you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 736915, member: 17720"] Leafy, Oh no, not *THAT* call. I'm so sorry, Leafy. I was thinking the same thing, that Tornado is most likely safer in jail than out. I agree 100% with your decision not to bail her out. It wouldn't matter if it was $11,000.00 or $11.00. My son's bail was $200. We would not pay it, nor would everyone else he could possibly think to call -- parents of old girlfriends, relatives who stopped speaking to him years ago, casual acquaintances, etc. No surprise there. He was in jail for over a month before his public defender even met with him. I never imagined I would be the kind of parent who leaves her son in jail wondering if anyone is even going to come see him to discuss his case. As his PD explained to us, they can check themselves out of rehab, but they can't check themselves out of jail. In his experience he was doing what was best for his client, because (1) When they are using drugs like meth, they need to be seriously rocked back on their heels to get their attention. (2) Clients need to have clear heads before making decisions, and a few days isn't enough time to clear their heads. I'm glad we followed his advice, but it was obviously a very rough time for us. So I don't know the "right" thing to do, but just wanted to throw our experience out there. No matter how it plays out, I hope that in some way this ultimately leads to Tornado seeing her need for rehab and starting it with serious intent. In the meantime, I'm so glad that you are reaching more of a steady state about the craziness of it all. We are all here to support you. [/QUOTE]
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