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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 737777" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Re. I am okay. A bit sad, but will let the feelings flow as I go about my day.</p><p>I am hoping that Tornado will get help while she detoxes. Thought about writing her a letter, just may do it (for me) but probably won’t send it. No sense wasting words on a bitter, addictive person. It won’t mean much to her in her present state.</p><p>Addiction is a selfish beast.</p><p>Now, to rise above and soldier on.</p><p>I have been around the block enough to know that there is nothing I can do or say that will move her towards change. She has got to want it for herself.</p><p> I admit, the whole situation still stings, and I am trying as best can to avoid the rabbit hole. We are creatures of habit. I found myself again reeling those tapes.......if this, if that. It just shows me I have more work to do to build myself up and not allow myself to ruminate over the rantings of an addict in forced detox.</p><p>I am going to go pick axe some nasty weeds on the mountain and will be chipping away at those thoughts at the same time.</p><p>Borrowing from my dads stoicism, he would so not put up with any of this <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/poop.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":poop:" title="poop :poop:" data-shortname=":poop:" />!</p><p>My quote thingee isn’t working. Thank you Re and Kalahou for your kindness and reaching out. I so appreciate the support. One of my young paddling friends said “I wish my aunties would stop bailing my cousins out.” This helps to fortify my decision, no matter what Tornado feels about that, and me. I saw a post on Facebook on enabling, where an addict talked about how to respond to an addicted love one.</p><p>It was basically “I love you.....NO! No I will not cater to you, because I love you!”</p><p>So up this mountain I will climb, in my camo pants and protective yard gear and pick axe away at all of those weeds and mixed emotions.</p><p>Mahalo nui loa and hugs back.</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 737777, member: 19522"] Hi Re. I am okay. A bit sad, but will let the feelings flow as I go about my day. I am hoping that Tornado will get help while she detoxes. Thought about writing her a letter, just may do it (for me) but probably won’t send it. No sense wasting words on a bitter, addictive person. It won’t mean much to her in her present state. Addiction is a selfish beast. Now, to rise above and soldier on. I have been around the block enough to know that there is nothing I can do or say that will move her towards change. She has got to want it for herself. I admit, the whole situation still stings, and I am trying as best can to avoid the rabbit hole. We are creatures of habit. I found myself again reeling those tapes.......if this, if that. It just shows me I have more work to do to build myself up and not allow myself to ruminate over the rantings of an addict in forced detox. I am going to go pick axe some nasty weeds on the mountain and will be chipping away at those thoughts at the same time. Borrowing from my dads stoicism, he would so not put up with any of this :poop:! My quote thingee isn’t working. Thank you Re and Kalahou for your kindness and reaching out. I so appreciate the support. One of my young paddling friends said “I wish my aunties would stop bailing my cousins out.” This helps to fortify my decision, no matter what Tornado feels about that, and me. I saw a post on Facebook on enabling, where an addict talked about how to respond to an addicted love one. It was basically “I love you.....NO! No I will not cater to you, because I love you!” So up this mountain I will climb, in my camo pants and protective yard gear and pick axe away at all of those weeds and mixed emotions. Mahalo nui loa and hugs back. Leafy [/QUOTE]
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