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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 753309" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>Copa, thank you so much! What you said resonated with me so loud and clear. The power play is exactly what is going on. This therapist allowed my daughter to complain about my husband for years, and I am sure at this point I have made my daughter's crap list as well. Therapist did empower daughter to make and keep my husband in the enemy slot. It is serving noone, but that is exactly what my daughter seeks .I have stopped allowing her to control me through her illness and so she seeks to find power elsewhere. </p><p></p><p>I had the same feeling about this as you do : to just let it be, to let her deal with it , to not take the bait .A 3D friend suggested to me last night that daughter was being manipulative and was throwing out bait at me since daughter brought up the subject with me about seeing this therapist. </p><p></p><p>I will not be involved in any way. I will refuse to do any billing. I will refuse to reconcile old bills anymore and deal with the insurance company on therapist or daughter's behalf. If a bill comes yet again, I will hand it to daughter. I will reinstate my boundary that nobody drives my car when I am back in the States and I will not ask when her appointments are and not change my schedule in order to accommodate them. If they happen to fit my schedule, I will give her a ride. If they don't, I can't. This is another opportunity for me to find more work. I think it be best if I were to be away from home as much as possible letting daughter deal with her own life and appointments. This is what initially resonated with me, and you confirmed it.</p><p></p><p>This therapist keeps daughter in victim mode. She allows daughter control .daughter talked her into that she was bipolar. I said from the start that was not bipolar, never believed it. Interesting that you had a similar experience with your son .</p><p>Daughter likes to control the medications she takes. She will suggest to psychiatric what she thinks she ought to take and this therapist will back it all up. Before I left on my trip , daughter made a big table on paper with the different medications she wants and what they do and said she knew because she understands the biochemistry of the medications. I asked how she knew and she claimed to have been a bio- chemistry major. She has not. Ever. I asked how many courses she had actually taken in that field and she admitted she had taken none. She is on 4 different medications right now. She will use this therapist to try to get what she wants which is Ativan. I don't allow it in my house . She told me before I left on trip she wants Ativan. She may already have gotten it from the last psychiatric appointment. Husband paid for medications and did not enforce our rule by checking what he paid for. I believe he was afraid of conflict with daughter. I am powerless over all of it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 753309, member: 24254"] Copa, thank you so much! What you said resonated with me so loud and clear. The power play is exactly what is going on. This therapist allowed my daughter to complain about my husband for years, and I am sure at this point I have made my daughter's crap list as well. Therapist did empower daughter to make and keep my husband in the enemy slot. It is serving noone, but that is exactly what my daughter seeks .I have stopped allowing her to control me through her illness and so she seeks to find power elsewhere. I had the same feeling about this as you do : to just let it be, to let her deal with it , to not take the bait .A 3D friend suggested to me last night that daughter was being manipulative and was throwing out bait at me since daughter brought up the subject with me about seeing this therapist. I will not be involved in any way. I will refuse to do any billing. I will refuse to reconcile old bills anymore and deal with the insurance company on therapist or daughter's behalf. If a bill comes yet again, I will hand it to daughter. I will reinstate my boundary that nobody drives my car when I am back in the States and I will not ask when her appointments are and not change my schedule in order to accommodate them. If they happen to fit my schedule, I will give her a ride. If they don't, I can't. This is another opportunity for me to find more work. I think it be best if I were to be away from home as much as possible letting daughter deal with her own life and appointments. This is what initially resonated with me, and you confirmed it. This therapist keeps daughter in victim mode. She allows daughter control .daughter talked her into that she was bipolar. I said from the start that was not bipolar, never believed it. Interesting that you had a similar experience with your son . Daughter likes to control the medications she takes. She will suggest to psychiatric what she thinks she ought to take and this therapist will back it all up. Before I left on my trip , daughter made a big table on paper with the different medications she wants and what they do and said she knew because she understands the biochemistry of the medications. I asked how she knew and she claimed to have been a bio- chemistry major. She has not. Ever. I asked how many courses she had actually taken in that field and she admitted she had taken none. She is on 4 different medications right now. She will use this therapist to try to get what she wants which is Ativan. I don't allow it in my house . She told me before I left on trip she wants Ativan. She may already have gotten it from the last psychiatric appointment. Husband paid for medications and did not enforce our rule by checking what he paid for. I believe he was afraid of conflict with daughter. I am powerless over all of it. [/QUOTE]
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