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<blockquote data-quote="Deni D" data-source="post: 736317" data-attributes="member: 22840"><p>Acacia I so hope you have a way to disengage and get your mind off of your son’s problems.</p><p></p><p>I understand fully how it feels so wrong to not help someone, especially your adult child who seems to never be able to get out of their own way. It goes against everything we believe we should do. I think to myself my son should have learned how to be responsible for himself and not take advantage of other people growing up, from the examples that were set and from the expectations I had of him. And now he’s off in the world acting like he grew himself up in the worst possible environment with no parental guidance or love. So now what? The answer I believe is nothing, do nothing, expect nothing. Sounds simple, but as we know it’s not so easy in practice. It seems we need to fill that nothing with something, and it seems care of ourselves, once we figure out what that actually means for us personally is probably best.</p><p></p><p>I hope your arm heals well. Uber was great for me when I broke my ankle. Also without a cast I was able to use the local Y for some of my rehab. They have a warm water pool, I love that pool. The people who work there know how to tell you how to adjust your workout for whatever you are dealing with because they tend to get a lot of people with disabilities. </p><p></p><p>Wishing peace for you and everyone else on this board today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Deni D, post: 736317, member: 22840"] Acacia I so hope you have a way to disengage and get your mind off of your son’s problems. I understand fully how it feels so wrong to not help someone, especially your adult child who seems to never be able to get out of their own way. It goes against everything we believe we should do. I think to myself my son should have learned how to be responsible for himself and not take advantage of other people growing up, from the examples that were set and from the expectations I had of him. And now he’s off in the world acting like he grew himself up in the worst possible environment with no parental guidance or love. So now what? The answer I believe is nothing, do nothing, expect nothing. Sounds simple, but as we know it’s not so easy in practice. It seems we need to fill that nothing with something, and it seems care of ourselves, once we figure out what that actually means for us personally is probably best. I hope your arm heals well. Uber was great for me when I broke my ankle. Also without a cast I was able to use the local Y for some of my rehab. They have a warm water pool, I love that pool. The people who work there know how to tell you how to adjust your workout for whatever you are dealing with because they tend to get a lot of people with disabilities. Wishing peace for you and everyone else on this board today. [/QUOTE]
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