Thank you all so very much. Leafy, you are right. Anything I say is either wrong or, worse, he can't do it, which isn't true.
In so many ways we are survivors. Difficult son has been VERY difficult since birth and has abused his sister, yet here I am....still here. Yet there are past issues I don't forget...like his sister, the Times he scared me, the things he called me, etc. It is not normal for adult kids to swear at, steal from, or call their parents who love them the most horrible names possible. Yet he LOVES me. I know this. Maybe too much. HE needs to detach. We both do.
Thanks again
