Hi Albie! Thanks for the input and insight.
Of course a therapist would help Bart in every way, with legal people as well, at least in my opinion. More than that, he needs to learn to ACCCEPT what he can not change! Don't we all? By living and dying over things he can't control, well, his blood pressure is way high for a fairly young man and he is in terrible physical shape. Mentally and physically.
But as much as he worries and has phobias, with death being one of his biggest fears, he doesn't do anything to put himself in better shape.
There is nothing I can say to push him along, to start him living life in spite of the lawsuit and to have interests and friends beyond his son. It's possibly as maddening I think as trying to get an unmotivated 21 year old to work and thrive. My son works and makes money (although a nightmare I don't even want to contemplate is that he is so distracted that he gets fired). But my son is not maturing, thriving, building a life full of interests and hobbies and any altruism toward others...no help to others. I know how much helping others helps US!
He is a 40 year old child who plays videogames and watches movies. Often he meets women on.Match, but he doesn't date them..
They go to his house. No wonder they don't stick around. Recently he got a fortunately treatable STD but he pretty much mumbled that this wont get him to use condomns. Such a smart man with no common sense.
So I have a 40 year old man child with no interests. Honestly, if ex didn't abuse grandson (and she does) I would secretly feel he would be better off with her. But she is worse...he is always in trouble there and he is a good kid. Not a d c. Smart and compliant in school. I don't know my grandson well, but I do see his school reports.
I feel Grandson has cards stacked against him. My son tries and loves him, but teaches him that owning everything grandson wants is good. There is nothing Grandson doesn't own. And, yes, he plays videogames way too much.
I just wish this was not a part of my otherwise terrific life.
Lil you are a doll. Even a tad insight into what may be going on helps me, even though nothing helps Bart. You are a true gem. A real shining diamond of a person, kind and straight forward (it is hard to seem like both lol).
