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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 748982" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>I think that as children we were taught to cover over sadness and be brave and strong. I remember those old Mitch Miller songs like "Keep Your Sunny Side Up". It is good to be resilient, not fall into a hole of self pity, but there is a vast difference with "faking it till you make it' and acknowledging our feelings, processing them, dealing with the sadness of our adult children's situation and striving to separate our emotional state from their consequences.</p><p>This is hard work.</p><p>Often times when I feel as if I have reached a point where I am better at dealing with my twos dilemma, then, <em>wham</em>, an incident happens and the rug is pulled from under me. But, I am reminded all around me that people are dealing with hardships-illness, losses. This just happens to be the cards I am dealt with. For now.</p><p>Copa, you have come so far from when I first came to CD. I remember your suffering and relate to just being <em>immobilized with sadness. </em>I had to recognize that I was becoming physically ill by stuffing my feelings down, trying to put on a brave face when I was in reality just full up and overwhelmed.</p><p>I am glad you are working to renew the whole, me too. Hopefully, our houses will be that much stronger. I am looking forward to finding myself through all of this.</p><p> You as well, my friend. I have borrowed much strength from your eloquent wisdom gracing this site. I am deeply indebted to each and every member who has reached out a hand to help me through these years.</p><p>Mahalo nui loa,</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 748982, member: 19522"] I think that as children we were taught to cover over sadness and be brave and strong. I remember those old Mitch Miller songs like "Keep Your Sunny Side Up". It is good to be resilient, not fall into a hole of self pity, but there is a vast difference with "faking it till you make it' and acknowledging our feelings, processing them, dealing with the sadness of our adult children's situation and striving to separate our emotional state from their consequences. This is hard work. Often times when I feel as if I have reached a point where I am better at dealing with my twos dilemma, then, [I]wham[/I], an incident happens and the rug is pulled from under me. But, I am reminded all around me that people are dealing with hardships-illness, losses. This just happens to be the cards I am dealt with. For now. Copa, you have come so far from when I first came to CD. I remember your suffering and relate to just being [I]immobilized with sadness. [/I]I had to recognize that I was becoming physically ill by stuffing my feelings down, trying to put on a brave face when I was in reality just full up and overwhelmed. I am glad you are working to renew the whole, me too. Hopefully, our houses will be that much stronger. I am looking forward to finding myself through all of this. You as well, my friend. I have borrowed much strength from your eloquent wisdom gracing this site. I am deeply indebted to each and every member who has reached out a hand to help me through these years. Mahalo nui loa, Leafy [/QUOTE]
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