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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 745219" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>They grieved already and are saying they have learned to live with it even though I am sure they are still sad. This happened to me wirh Goneboy. I am no longer sad because not moving on ever is the only other option. Do they have other kids they see and love?Grandkids?</p><p></p><p>Every loss is grieved and gets better. Doesnt mean they still dont cry sometimes.</p><p></p><p>I cant imagine losing a child to death having said that. I am one of those moms who definiyely loves too much. But I was able with great therapy to grieve a child who left us and to continue on, having a great life. Maybe it was because he is alive and was such a jerk at the end that it was offputting and hopeless. I celebrate the good times we had when he was little but dont miss him anymore. He was not attached to us. And maybe I was not as attached to him as I am to all my other kids who came as babies. He came at six. We did love him. But maybe (and I am not sure) missing those baby years made it a different, less intense love. I didnt think so at the time. Who knows though?</p><p></p><p></p><p>Hard to know what is really in the minds of others. If Goneboy had been my only it may have been very different too. So hard ro know. I am guessing it was horrid for them!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 745219, member: 1550"] They grieved already and are saying they have learned to live with it even though I am sure they are still sad. This happened to me wirh Goneboy. I am no longer sad because not moving on ever is the only other option. Do they have other kids they see and love?Grandkids? Every loss is grieved and gets better. Doesnt mean they still dont cry sometimes. I cant imagine losing a child to death having said that. I am one of those moms who definiyely loves too much. But I was able with great therapy to grieve a child who left us and to continue on, having a great life. Maybe it was because he is alive and was such a jerk at the end that it was offputting and hopeless. I celebrate the good times we had when he was little but dont miss him anymore. He was not attached to us. And maybe I was not as attached to him as I am to all my other kids who came as babies. He came at six. We did love him. But maybe (and I am not sure) missing those baby years made it a different, less intense love. I didnt think so at the time. Who knows though? Hard to know what is really in the minds of others. If Goneboy had been my only it may have been very different too. So hard ro know. I am guessing it was horrid for them! [/QUOTE]
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