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<blockquote data-quote="elizabrary" data-source="post: 748933" data-attributes="member: 11235"><p>Hi Dallas- Sorry you have to be here, but everyone here understands. I kicked my alcoholic daughter out of my house when she was 19 and had an infant. She had nowhere to go. I know how stressful it is. I'm glad your son is understanding of it. My daughter was a raving lunatic blaming all her problems on me. But that was nearly 10 years ago and things are better, but still not perfect. It was a long process for me to get to the point I am now, where I can deal with whatever craziness my daughter does and not lose my own sanity and health along the way. When I am having a hard time I treat myself as kindly as I would a friend going through the same thing. Being understanding of myself and letting myself get through the process of grieving, being sad, just being upset really helps. I also do nice things for myself to keep myself busy. I go to movies, I spend a lot of time walking in nature with my dogs, I go have a drink with friends, I color, whatever I feel like doing. Over the years I have become pretty selfish, which I needed. I used to put everyone else first. Now it's me first and I have no problem saying no. It sounds like you are on the right path, difficult as it. Give yourself time and focus on you and slowly but surely you will start feeling better. You will learn ways to manage your worry and stress about your son. Try and remember he is an adult and he has to walk his own path, whatever that looks like. Sending you peace.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="elizabrary, post: 748933, member: 11235"] Hi Dallas- Sorry you have to be here, but everyone here understands. I kicked my alcoholic daughter out of my house when she was 19 and had an infant. She had nowhere to go. I know how stressful it is. I'm glad your son is understanding of it. My daughter was a raving lunatic blaming all her problems on me. But that was nearly 10 years ago and things are better, but still not perfect. It was a long process for me to get to the point I am now, where I can deal with whatever craziness my daughter does and not lose my own sanity and health along the way. When I am having a hard time I treat myself as kindly as I would a friend going through the same thing. Being understanding of myself and letting myself get through the process of grieving, being sad, just being upset really helps. I also do nice things for myself to keep myself busy. I go to movies, I spend a lot of time walking in nature with my dogs, I go have a drink with friends, I color, whatever I feel like doing. Over the years I have become pretty selfish, which I needed. I used to put everyone else first. Now it's me first and I have no problem saying no. It sounds like you are on the right path, difficult as it. Give yourself time and focus on you and slowly but surely you will start feeling better. You will learn ways to manage your worry and stress about your son. Try and remember he is an adult and he has to walk his own path, whatever that looks like. Sending you peace. [/QUOTE]
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