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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 737583" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I am asking myself this:</p><p></p><p>Right or wrong, I felt attacked for voicing my views.</p><p></p><p>Yesterday I saw a choice. To take my toys and go home. Or. To voice a response.</p><p></p><p>It felt clear to me to voice it privately was not a constructive option.</p><p></p><p>I am asking myself today if I should have sat with it, my thoughts and feelings, privately.</p><p></p><p>Perhaps a stronger, kinder person would have done that, I tell myself.</p><p></p><p>But then I think. By that logic we do not come to CD.</p><p></p><p>Is it strong or weak to seek support?</p><p></p><p>Is it strong or weak to express pain, confusion, fear, doubt?</p><p></p><p>Is it strong or weak to tell the truths of our lives?</p><p></p><p>At what point do we appropriately move on?</p><p></p><p>Does suffering have a constructive purpose?</p><p></p><p>Does recovery imply moving on?</p><p></p><p>Each of these questions, pinks message to me prompted. For me, these are important questions.</p><p></p><p>I worry that what public response did was shaming. And to evoke support to do so. And that is wrong. Or is it? Does the shame come from voicing what happened? Or does it come from the initial act?</p><p></p><p>I have borne shame in my life for things done to me. I had no voice. How are we served to remediate the past? Can we? Should we?</p><p></p><p>I can argue that in private to seek to hurt somebody is wrong. But I know that that kind of retaliation comes from hurt. How do we respinsibly handle hurts done to us?</p><p></p><p>Nobody can take away from my responsibility for bad acts. Or other's responsibility for same.</p><p></p><p>What I am left with is questions about a public forum such as this. A lot of these I have only thought about seriously in the last 24 hours.</p><p></p><p>I never said the fun threads were a bad thing. Or that it was necessary to suffer, to be helpful. I only hoped that those who came would contribute to our mission, in part.</p><p></p><p>From this has come this can of worms.</p><p></p><p>For good or ill, I do not know.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry for my part, in causing pain.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 737583, member: 18958"] I am asking myself this: Right or wrong, I felt attacked for voicing my views. Yesterday I saw a choice. To take my toys and go home. Or. To voice a response. It felt clear to me to voice it privately was not a constructive option. I am asking myself today if I should have sat with it, my thoughts and feelings, privately. Perhaps a stronger, kinder person would have done that, I tell myself. But then I think. By that logic we do not come to CD. Is it strong or weak to seek support? Is it strong or weak to express pain, confusion, fear, doubt? Is it strong or weak to tell the truths of our lives? At what point do we appropriately move on? Does suffering have a constructive purpose? Does recovery imply moving on? Each of these questions, pinks message to me prompted. For me, these are important questions. I worry that what public response did was shaming. And to evoke support to do so. And that is wrong. Or is it? Does the shame come from voicing what happened? Or does it come from the initial act? I have borne shame in my life for things done to me. I had no voice. How are we served to remediate the past? Can we? Should we? I can argue that in private to seek to hurt somebody is wrong. But I know that that kind of retaliation comes from hurt. How do we respinsibly handle hurts done to us? Nobody can take away from my responsibility for bad acts. Or other's responsibility for same. What I am left with is questions about a public forum such as this. A lot of these I have only thought about seriously in the last 24 hours. I never said the fun threads were a bad thing. Or that it was necessary to suffer, to be helpful. I only hoped that those who came would contribute to our mission, in part. From this has come this can of worms. For good or ill, I do not know. I am sorry for my part, in causing pain. [/QUOTE]
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