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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 737584" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>“A Soft Place To Land for Battle Weary Parents.”</p><p>Coming here has helped me keep my sanity with two wayward adult children.</p><p>We often can’t and don’t show our pain to the world we walk in, have to keep a stiff upper lip at work, while out in public, while at the same time, dealing with some pretty bizarre circumstances with our children, who are yes, now adults, but who we love dearly. Some of us can’t even bring ourselves to think about the time we spent nurturing them as babes, toddlers, youngsters, because it is especially heart wrenching.</p><p>I think it shows a certain kind of <em>strength</em> to bear your heart and soul on a public forum, there is a vulnerability to this.</p><p>To allow yourself to be vulnerable takes courage.</p><p>The intention to help and be helped is what makes us fellow warriors, some of us still in the trenches, on the frontlines, some still here encouraging others on, even though their children have moved on to find their true potential.</p><p>I thank each and every member for sharing your truths, pain, experiences, it is a great comfort to know I am not alone.</p><p>I don’t wish it on anyone.</p><p>On the P.E forum, there is a post by Runawaybunny that offers guidelines for interacting with others posting here. It is a good reminder to come to this soft place with compassion and understanding for those walking this journey.</p><p>We are all fighting our own battles, trying as best can to keep our head above water. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but I think it is of the utmost importance to try our best to do no harm. People are already dealing with enough hurt. </p><p>It is not wallowing, or staying in a negative mind frame. We are doing our utmost to fight our way out of the trenches of this battle.</p><p>“For everything there is a season.” If a member needs to vent, so be it. If one is up to joining in on a fun post, that is good, laughter is the best medicine. </p><p>In appropriate doses and at the right time.</p><p> I do understand Copas concern for maintaining the vision and mission of the boards. I don’t post too often in the watecooler, just too busy. </p><p>My focus is to try to help others who are seeking advice and comfort. While I post, I reaffirm my commitment to working to rise above the sorrow of having two of my beloveds struggling with meth addiction. I share my pain as well, seeking help and solace from my fellow warriors. It has allowed me to soldier on.</p><p>Maybe part of that has to do with trying to make some sense of it all. If we are able to help one another by sharing our own triumphs and defeats, urging one another to take care of ourselves, then some good comes out of the <em>suffering</em>.</p><p>The <em>grieving. </em></p><p>As Recoveringenablers name implies, this is a lifetime commitment to healing. An understanding that we have no control over our beloveds choices and actions. Many of us have to deal with the cold, hard reality that our adult children may not make it through the darkness.</p><p>So please.........</p><p> Let’s keep this a soft place to land.</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 737584, member: 19522"] “A Soft Place To Land for Battle Weary Parents.” Coming here has helped me keep my sanity with two wayward adult children. We often can’t and don’t show our pain to the world we walk in, have to keep a stiff upper lip at work, while out in public, while at the same time, dealing with some pretty bizarre circumstances with our children, who are yes, now adults, but who we love dearly. Some of us can’t even bring ourselves to think about the time we spent nurturing them as babes, toddlers, youngsters, because it is especially heart wrenching. I think it shows a certain kind of [I]strength[/I] to bear your heart and soul on a public forum, there is a vulnerability to this. To allow yourself to be vulnerable takes courage. The intention to help and be helped is what makes us fellow warriors, some of us still in the trenches, on the frontlines, some still here encouraging others on, even though their children have moved on to find their true potential. I thank each and every member for sharing your truths, pain, experiences, it is a great comfort to know I am not alone. I don’t wish it on anyone. On the P.E forum, there is a post by Runawaybunny that offers guidelines for interacting with others posting here. It is a good reminder to come to this soft place with compassion and understanding for those walking this journey. We are all fighting our own battles, trying as best can to keep our head above water. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but I think it is of the utmost importance to try our best to do no harm. People are already dealing with enough hurt. It is not wallowing, or staying in a negative mind frame. We are doing our utmost to fight our way out of the trenches of this battle. “For everything there is a season.” If a member needs to vent, so be it. If one is up to joining in on a fun post, that is good, laughter is the best medicine. In appropriate doses and at the right time. I do understand Copas concern for maintaining the vision and mission of the boards. I don’t post too often in the watecooler, just too busy. My focus is to try to help others who are seeking advice and comfort. While I post, I reaffirm my commitment to working to rise above the sorrow of having two of my beloveds struggling with meth addiction. I share my pain as well, seeking help and solace from my fellow warriors. It has allowed me to soldier on. Maybe part of that has to do with trying to make some sense of it all. If we are able to help one another by sharing our own triumphs and defeats, urging one another to take care of ourselves, then some good comes out of the [I]suffering[/I]. The [I]grieving. [/I] As Recoveringenablers name implies, this is a lifetime commitment to healing. An understanding that we have no control over our beloveds choices and actions. Many of us have to deal with the cold, hard reality that our adult children may not make it through the darkness. So please......... Let’s keep this a soft place to land. Leafy [/QUOTE]
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