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<blockquote data-quote="Beta" data-source="post: 754509" data-attributes="member: 22597"><p>Thank you all. I send my "Happy New Year" to each of you as we continue this journey we seem to have found ourselves on. </p><p></p><p>I have just begun a book entitled, "When Love Hurts, 10 Principles to Transform Difficult Relationships" by Karla Downing. She is a Christian psychologist who has a YouTube channel with brief videos on different topics. Here's an excerpt from the first chapter: </p><p>"<em>It's not in the best interest of the other person to allow him or her to mistreat you. Philippians 2:4 says, 'Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interest of others.' You're responsible primarily for yourself. You must attend to your interests to do that. 'Love does no harm to its neighbor.' (Romans 13:10) You harm others when you enable them to do things that hurt themselves or others--including you. It's hurtful to your loved one if you financially support irresponsible and destructive behaviors, cover sin, or react in ways that are emotionally damaging. As there is a time for compassion and mercy, there is also a time for tough love. Tough love is love that makes it possible for you to allow your loved one to suffer in the hope that they will be saved. Tough love allows you to draw boundaries, to speak the truth in love, to say no, and to allow consequences. Tough love is not administered in anger but out of a deep understanding of the needs of the person and a concern for his or her long-term well-being.</em></p><p>There are a few other comments I'd like to share that are helpful to me in choosing not to communicate with Josh right now, but I don't want to overwhelm you all with too much. I'll post more later.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Beta, post: 754509, member: 22597"] Thank you all. I send my "Happy New Year" to each of you as we continue this journey we seem to have found ourselves on. I have just begun a book entitled, "When Love Hurts, 10 Principles to Transform Difficult Relationships" by Karla Downing. She is a Christian psychologist who has a YouTube channel with brief videos on different topics. Here's an excerpt from the first chapter: "[I]It's not in the best interest of the other person to allow him or her to mistreat you. Philippians 2:4 says, 'Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interest of others.' You're responsible primarily for yourself. You must attend to your interests to do that. 'Love does no harm to its neighbor.' (Romans 13:10) You harm others when you enable them to do things that hurt themselves or others--including you. It's hurtful to your loved one if you financially support irresponsible and destructive behaviors, cover sin, or react in ways that are emotionally damaging. As there is a time for compassion and mercy, there is also a time for tough love. Tough love is love that makes it possible for you to allow your loved one to suffer in the hope that they will be saved. Tough love allows you to draw boundaries, to speak the truth in love, to say no, and to allow consequences. Tough love is not administered in anger but out of a deep understanding of the needs of the person and a concern for his or her long-term well-being.[/I] There are a few other comments I'd like to share that are helpful to me in choosing not to communicate with Josh right now, but I don't want to overwhelm you all with too much. I'll post more later. [/QUOTE]
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