rejectedmom
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Well difficult child did find a new place to stay after being asked to leave the program housing he was in. He went to a soberhouse recommended by some of his AA buddies. Unfortunately after a week he was asked to leave there also because he couldn't manage to get up the day after moving in to report for a 4am job that the temp agencey had set up. since he didn't report the temp agency couldn't (translate wouldn't) find any other work for him so he couldn't pay his $125/week rent and again was out of housing. This was Friday evening before Easter. difficult child had called and asked if he could come home and when I said not yet because he hadn't worked the program long enough to inspire any confidence in me that he would not just go right back to his old ways he hung up the phone with me. I had told him to go to the shelter and reapply for the program housing in 90 days. He said he would call right back but didn't. Enter his AA buddies again, one of which took him home to stay with him until difficult child got on his feet (ARRRRRRRRG!). We didn't hear from him the entire holiday weekend I figured he was just mad and let it go. Easter sunday I wanted to take him to brunch and we still hadn't heard from him so I called the shelter only to find out he was not there. On Monday morning I called the program director who told me that difficult child's girlfriend hadn't reported in either. It was assumed they were together. (They were not.) I then called difficult child's mental health worker to see if she knew where he was and she didn't BUT get this... she reported him missing to his PO. I didn't know this until yesterday. Anyway difficult child finally called me on Monday evening around 5pm. He told me where he was and that he was looking for a job. I asked if he had been in touch with his PO to tell her that he had moved again and he said not yet. I told him to call his PO ASAP and let her know where he was. He said he would do it Tuesday since the office was closed for the day. He never got the chance. First thing tuesday morning I called the mental health worker to give her difficult child's telephone number and tell her that he was safe and with his AA friend. She then told me that a warrant was out for difficult child's arrest. The PO had violated his parole because of her Monday e-mail stating he was missing. She basically said that it was her fault but that she was obligated as a county worker to report these things. That would have been fine, except she then said that she would have been in alot of trouble if difficult child had gotten hurt or into trouble and she hadn't reported him missing. So I now question if there was any real concern for difficult child's welfare involved. She said that she would e-mail the PO again and see if the warrant could be revoked but she doubted it. I asked if she would call me back when she knew what was going to be done. I have heard nothing. I called the PO this afternoon but she didn't take or return my call. So now difficult child is probably going back to jail for basically just being unable to work and unable to follow a buget when he was working. This is justice for a severly mentally ill individual with borderline intelligence and substance abuse issues. 
