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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 758385" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Trying, I see myself in your posts, so maybe that’s why I find myself getting so strident in my response.</p><p></p><p>Many of us have been where you are now, beating our heads against the wall in hopes of shaking loose an answer.</p><p></p><p>You keep asking yourself the same questions, but you only listen for one answer: Son. Son. Son.</p><p></p><p>“What is my son doing?” “What is my son feeling?” “What might happen with my son‘s security deposit?” “What will happen with my son’s ex-girlfriend’s boyfriend?”</p><p></p><p>On and on it goes...with your son showing no inclination to change...and honestly he has no reason to see why it’s even necessary.</p><p></p><p>And your resentment of your son for the toll he takes continues to build...but you continue to let him take it!</p><p></p><p>Golly...aren’t you tired of it, Trying?</p><p></p><p>How do YOU feel? What do YOU think? And try not to answer with how it relates to your son. Maybe you can try putting more focus on other aspects of your life.</p><p></p><p>Your son is a grown man, with the ability to solve his own problems. It is OK to tell him you don’t want to hear it. Blocking his unreasonable behavior doesn’t make you a bad mom.</p><p></p><p>Letting Life be his teacher doesn’t make you a bad mom either. It is OK to let him find out why his plan was not such a great idea...and to lose security deposits and jobs and friendships and the other things people need to lose so they learn.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 758385, member: 17720"] Trying, I see myself in your posts, so maybe that’s why I find myself getting so strident in my response. Many of us have been where you are now, beating our heads against the wall in hopes of shaking loose an answer. You keep asking yourself the same questions, but you only listen for one answer: Son. Son. Son. “What is my son doing?” “What is my son feeling?” “What might happen with my son‘s security deposit?” “What will happen with my son’s ex-girlfriend’s boyfriend?” On and on it goes...with your son showing no inclination to change...and honestly he has no reason to see why it’s even necessary. And your resentment of your son for the toll he takes continues to build...but you continue to let him take it! Golly...aren’t you tired of it, Trying? How do YOU feel? What do YOU think? And try not to answer with how it relates to your son. Maybe you can try putting more focus on other aspects of your life. Your son is a grown man, with the ability to solve his own problems. It is OK to tell him you don’t want to hear it. Blocking his unreasonable behavior doesn’t make you a bad mom. Letting Life be his teacher doesn’t make you a bad mom either. It is OK to let him find out why his plan was not such a great idea...and to lose security deposits and jobs and friendships and the other things people need to lose so they learn. [/QUOTE]
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